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The Four Posts You Need To Be a Better Lover

Between the sheets or under the cover, everyone wants to be (or be with) a sexy, better, lover.   But most of today’s sex education comes in the form of porn. With its pneumatic leading ladies (and men wielding equally pneumatically-pumping penises), it’s like trying to learn how to drive a car from watching The […]
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Phone sex

How To Talk Dirty

Talking to people is easy enough, but in the bedroom things tend to get a little harder, or at least they can be with the right dirty talk… Yes, mouths can be used for other than foreplay in the bedroom, with equally stimulating results. Dirty talk can help break tension whilst maintaining and even increasing […]
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Tamsa New Zealand

Sam and Floral Sex

Currently in my thoughts is my Self-effacing Antipodean Man, known henceforth as ‘Sam’, who hails from the Land of the Long White Cloud, Aorateroa, otherwise known as New Zealand… Sam is currently engaged in his “Overseas Experience”, when natives of his home migrate abroad, only returning decades later to reproduce. Like some gentle semi-domesticated wild […]
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The ‘Emma’ Dilemma – Dating a Carer

The idea arises from the classic romance by Jane Austen, You may have read the novel or watched a film version, (or possibly have been forced to watch the film version under sufferance when dating). Its main character is the eternally matchmaking busybody ‘heroine’, Emma, who has a very elderly, querulous father who needs caring […]
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Texting

The Modern Guide To Textiquette

Textiquette (or text etiquette, for those who don’t like hastily thrown together abbreviations) is a beast – hard to grasp and even harder to tame, like the great white whale, or a particularly nefarious badger. But it’s something everyone who is in dating game needs a firm hand on, so here are a few tips […]
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Toying Around: A History of Adult Play

Adult sex toys, they come in all shapes and sizes: ‘Neck’ massagers, Love Beads, Love Bullets, Vibrating Eggs, Dildos, Wands, and, of course, the Rampant Rabbit. For women, the list is as long and as varied as your imagination can stretch. Whereas men get sexual gratification alone from anything close to hand, or if they’re […]
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The joy of dating younger men

In Praise of Dating Younger Men

We’ve featured a few articles in the past about the positive characteristics of dating a cougar, both in terms of her allure and why she will make the best date companion. For this reason, we thought it was about time that we put together something extolling the benefits of dating a younger guy. This is […]
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Couple enjoys moment

Dating in the Moment

Like many women who enjoy being around younger men, part of the attraction for me is the ability – for once – to live in the moment. It’s so liberating to be entirely in the present and in my experience, young guys usually inhabit the Space-time continuum of the Now with considerable energy! I appreciate […]
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Polyamory

Do Threesomes Work?

Threesomes are one of those fantasies that are hard to slip into conversations with partners, especially long-term ones. Without prior discussion of a ménage à trios, if a partner says; ‘Hey, look at her/him, don’t they look sexy?’, the reply could be a heated argument followed by a break-up. The problem with adding a third wheel to […]
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