Why I Prefer To Date Older Women

We asked some of our Toyboy Warehouse members why do they choose to older women. Take a look at their responses.

Martin, 31 has been on Toyboy Warehouse for a little over 6 months.

I’ve always preferred older women. Even in my twenties when a lot of my friends were starting relationships with women their age, I was interested in someone more mature.

My average age-gap has been around 10-15 years, with my largest being 17 years. I’m not too worried about the maths of it all, if there’s a connection, that’s what matters for me.

I think I’m a bit of an old soul. I love jazz and smart conversations, the whole clubbing scene isn’t one for me! I also really admire independence, I don’t like it if the person I’m in a relationship with feels obligated to rely on me. I find someone who knows what they want sexy. Someone who’s self-assured and isn’t looking for hand holding (in the metaphorical sense, everyone loves actual physical hand holding!).

I can’t actually remember how I found out about Toyboy Warehouse. Honestly I wasn’t actually looking for a relationship or anything, just to meet new people. One thing led to another and I had a number of fantastic dates, even managing to find someone who’d willingly go to a jazz club with me – can’t say the same for the same aged girlfriends I’ve had.

Martin, 31

Ahmed, 30 only joined after a friend forced him to and he’s never looked back

For me, I wouldn’t say I have a preference over older women or women my age. I’m open to all kinds of people, if there’s chemistry, I couldn’t care less about the age-gap.

I was convinced to join Toyboy Warehouse by an ex of mine, she said it’d suit my open dating style. I was pretty reulctant at first, not knowing what I was getting myself into. But when I did, I was glad I took her advice.

Things seem a little slower on Toyboy Warehouse, compared to other dating sites – not in a bad way. On Tinder, or something, there’s loads of matches and messages, it can be difficult to keep up. You don’t really have a connection with a single person, just fleeting conversations that quickly go nowhere.

When I first join Toyboy Warehouse I messaged a few women and to my surprise I spent nearly the entire night chatting with one of them. It was really nice to connect and have a proper conversation, rather than quick one liners. We met up a little while later and had a really enjoyable evening. We were together for a couple of months and while it didn’t work out in the end, we both really enjoyed our time together.

To anyone thinking of trying the site for themselves, I’d say go for it!

Ahemd, 30

Ed, 34 says his username is raison_d’etre

I think it’s important to be open about what you’re looking for early in a relationship. I’m looking for something casual but exciting, not a fling but a “passionate series of encounters”.

I find older women so sexy, and the secret is, so do loads of other guys. I think it’s TV shows and films that portray guys only interested in women younger than them, but the opposite it true!

The nights I’ve spend with older women have been some of the best I’ve had. There’s no awkwardness, no assumption of marriage or kids down the line. I find when it comes to the bedroom, older women know what they want.

I’ve found some to be a little shy, many haven’t dated a younger guys. Plenty expect me to be turned off my a wrinkle here and there, but that’s never been the case. Very quickly we usually find that shyness wash away and we have the most amazing, passionate experience with each other.

Ed, 34

Sven, 46

My friends are split in half, 50% of them have girlfriends/wives a lot younger than them, 50% of them have girlfriends/wives a lot older than them. You can guess what camp I’m in.

I’m a widower, my wife passed away a little over 6 years ago. Ever since then, I’ve kind of had a redefined look about life. I was working a standard 9-5 job, typical mortgage, bills, quiet life. My wife’s passing was extremely hard on me, it took me a little to realise I had to enjoy the fleeting time that I have.

My new lease on life has pushed me to try new adventures, I’ve travelled more in the last few years than I ever did in the near have a century before that.

For me, I want to find someone to share those adventures with. Someone who doesn’t want a “pipe and slippers” husband but to experience all life has to offer.

Joining the site was part of that. I wanted to find someone who was also bored of the mundane and ready for adventure.

Sven, 46