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New Year With Sam

Sam is an acronym for ‘Self-effacing Antipodean Man’, my sweet-natured ‘Kiwi bloke’ who has spent the last decade working his way around Europe. We are friends and when circumstances permit, we are also lovers. When we met over ten years ago, I was in my late forties and Sam was in his mid-twenties. Over many […]
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Cheating: Can We have Our Cake and Eat it?

This is a guest post for Toyboy Warehouse: UK’s largest cougar dating site. I never understood: ‘You cannot have your cake and eat it.’ as a kid, what else would you do with a cake that you have? The complete phrase: ‘You cannot have your cake and eat it too.’ makes a little more sense, […]
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Stephen Fry’s Toyboy Engagement

With the news of Stephen Fry and Elliot Spencer’s engagement, Twitter was abuzz with its usual snarky comments about celebrity age-gap relationships. Comedian, writer and television host Fry, 57, and comedian Spencer, 27, spilled the news tweeting yesterday “Oh. It looks as though a certain cat is out of a certain bag” after The Sun […]
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The Best Gift of All…

So here I am on a Sunday morning, school uniforms rotating in the tumble dryer, sat at my PC with a hot mug of tea. With a slightly unfocused mind from cumulative lack of sleep, I’m trying to decide on the subject of my last blog before New Year. This blog is targeted at people […]
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Sam, Reluctant Angel

Sam is an acronym for ‘Self-effacing Antipodean Man’, my New Zealander who has spent the last decade working his way around Europe. When we have the rare opportunity, we are lovers but more so, we are friends.  When we met initially, Sam was just twenty-six and now he is a mature man with his fortieth […]
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It’ll Never Last… Or Will It?

It Will Never Last! This is one of the commonest responses to the reality of a man having any kind of relationship with a considerably older woman. In November 2014, I was watching the news and a piece with the wonderful Gillian Lynne DBE was featured. This lady (and she is a lady), who can […]
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Wants and Needs: What really makes a relationship work?

At times, that which we desire can differ from that which we are truly looking for. We may envision the perfect partner to be tall, muscular and handsome, yet the reality of the situation is often an entirely different matter. Truth be told, we can be blinded by characteristics we believe a potential partner shouts […]
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6 Reasons Why You Haven’t Met The ONE Yet

Hello Ladies, Do you fall into the Bridget Jones category? Are you single and looking for more than one night? You’re looking for that other half who will be your match until the day you die? Looking but not finding… why is that?   Often the media labels women between 30-45 to be ‘husband hunters’ […]
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Star-crossed Sam

My friend and erstwhile lover Sam, the ‘Self-effacing Antipodean Man’ from New Zealand, has been incommunicado for over a year now. He was seeing a girl closer to where he is working in Europe, so I did the noble thing. I left him alone whilst I pursued other interests. Sam is suddenly back in contact, […]
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