When Vanilla is Better than Chocolate

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When Vanilla is Better than Chocolate

Someone asked me recently if my sexual preferences were vanilla. My immediate response was a raised eyebrow and slight panic, because for most of my life, this quote from American Beautysummed my attitude: “I don’t think that there’s anything worse than being ordinary.” Vanilla was boring. Vanilla was anathema. What he was really asking was […]
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Can you handle it?

Not everyone’s right for us. Can you take rejection gracefully? One of the good things about growing older and feeling more comfortable in one’s own skin is discovering the ability to say no. Many of us ladies have been taught to be people-pleasers from the year dot; do you want to be loved, little girl? […]
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My Beautiful Boy

“How far can a ripped torso take a film?” asked one article on the new Tarzan film.  Then there was this little gem from Buzzfeed  about Italian water polo players. And that hilarious Descendants of the Sun promo. Believe it or not, I was quite unmoved by all these displays of male physical perfection. I appreciated them, but. Attractiveness is […]
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Matchmaker challenges

In my last blog I pointed out the 4 top differences between Romantic Duo and online dating platforms. If you haven’t read it yet I encourage you to do so.   Last time, I pointed out that Matchmaking is still a little-known term and for this reason I decided to tell you a bit more […]
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Hung like a horse? Does size matter?

Tackling the age old question of size versus performance is always a bit of a minefield. As a woman I can only speak from the perspective of being on the receiving end and as their appendage is a man’s pride and joy you have to bear in mind that any criticism will really get them […]
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Older women: a Finishing School for Sex?

I blame Anne Bancroft. There she was, looking like a sexually sublime schoolmistress in The Graduate, asking the gauche Dustin Hoffman “Would you like me to seduce you?”, and the die was cast. All older woman can teach younger men how to become better in bed, a fact which arrives in the post along with […]
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Isn’t he a bit young?

The age of my playmates has never been before a topic of discussion, as in, “Isn’t he a bit young?”. I bring it up now because there was a brief flurry of a discussion on social media about not dating people under 28 as they’re not “serious enough”. The eyebrow went up and the lips […]
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Navigating the Silences

I find online dating one part intriguing and two parts mystifying. Mystifying in that I’m still not sure what the protocol is when it comes to communicating electronically. As one young man exclaimed the other night, “You actually remember a time without the internet!” Yes, young Padawan*, I most certainly do. However, I married very […]
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