Sam, Reluctant Angel

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Sam is an acronym for ‘Self-effacing Antipodean Man’, my New Zealander who has spent the last decade working his way around Europe. When we have the rare opportunity, we are lovers but more so, we are friends.  When we met initially, Sam was just twenty-six and now he is a mature man with his fortieth […]
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It Will Never Last! This is one of the commonest responses to the reality of a man having any kind of relationship with a considerably older woman. In November 2014, I was watching the news and a piece with the wonderful Gillian Lynne DBE was featured. This lady (and she is a lady), who can […]
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At times, that which we desire can differ from that which we are truly looking for. We may envision the perfect partner to be tall, muscular and handsome, yet the reality of the situation is often an entirely different matter. Truth be told, we can be blinded by characteristics we believe a potential partner shouts […]
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Hello Ladies, Do you fall into the Bridget Jones category? Are you single and looking for more than one night? You’re looking for that other half who will be your match until the day you die? Looking but not finding… why is that?   Often the media labels women between 30-45 to be ‘husband hunters’ […]
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So let me set the scene for you. My 20-plus-year marriage had ended, a lonely, passionless and pretty miserable final few years. No intimacy, no sex. I had turned into my great-aunt Maud, a dried-up old prune. During this time I met a guy while taking a course. He was 10 years younger and charming. […]
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My friend and erstwhile lover Sam, the ‘Self-effacing Antipodean Man’ from New Zealand, has been incommunicado for over a year now. He was seeing a girl closer to where he is working in Europe, so I did the noble thing. I left him alone whilst I pursued other interests. Sam is suddenly back in contact, […]
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I read an article in last weekend’s Sunday Times about cougars in France, noting that the new economy minister (aged 36) is married to a 56 year old. The piece suggests that such couples are becoming a bit of a social phenomenon there, with 20% of first time brides in 2012 being older than their […]
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Love and the gambit
A law firm notes a rise in toyboy husbands filing for divorce; is it ‘game over’ for the cougar wife? It can feel like a modern-day rite of passage for a younger man to date an ‘older woman’.   Sometimes it’s born of curiosity; is it really true that cougars have higher sex drives and are […]
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Many of us believe that we live in a time in which we are sexually liberated. Unlike generations before us, we have easy access to contraception; and it’s no longer taboo to have sex outside of marriage. Sexual imagery pierces every form of media that we are exposed to. In the age of reality TV, […]
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