Navigating the Silences

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Navigating the Silences

I find online dating one part intriguing and two parts mystifying. Mystifying in that I’m still not sure what the protocol is when it comes to communicating electronically. As one young man exclaimed the other night, “You actually remember a time without the internet!” Yes, young Padawan*, I most certainly do. However, I married very […]
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My Cougar Confession

In the nine months or so I’ve been on Toyboy Warehouse I’ve told only a handful of friends about it (including my two grown-up kids).  I kind of knew all along what was holding me back, sniffing the possibility of disapproval in the air; the judgement of those who believe I should live by the creed of what they think a […]
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The Irrelevance of Age in Modern Dating

A recent article from Stylist.com, discussing the results of a survey carried out by another dating site, suggests that women will go no lower than four years and nine months below their own age. Similarly, men were rarely interested in partners more than four years and ten months older than they are. It strikes me as […]
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Age-Gap Dating: Fixed or flexible?

I hear from other women who date younger men that they often stay attracted to a particular age group, and this whole issue of attraction renders me curious. I’m fairly fixed in my habit of dating younger men, and have pretty well accepted that, as it’s been the case for almost 20 years now. Personally, […]
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8 Signs You’re Secretly a Cougar

We’ve all been there, a hot younger man appears and with him an instant smile across your face. Is it just a one-off or should you go younger for good? Compare yourself to this list of signs you’re in fact a cougar and I’ll let you decide…   1. You don’t ‘feel your age’ ‘Age […]
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10 Things I Took 40 Years To Learn

When I was younger I always hated hearing the words: ‘If I knew at your age the things I know now…’ Well?? I thought, can’t you just tell me?! Now I’m 40, I know what this phrase really means, but I still have some words of wisdom to share. Hear are the 10 most important […]
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Why it’s fine to ‘look your age’

Apparently, I really don’t look my age. This is a comment I’ve been receiving a great deal over the past couple of months. At first I was flattered, but now I’m becoming slightly irritated by it. In a few months, I will be 55. It doesn’t bother me, the age. Everyone ages, like it or […]
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