First Message Faux Pas

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Online dating, writing a first message

First Message Faux Pas

After recently flirting with the world of online dating and gaining some experience of what it’s all about, I have observed similar patterns occurring in the way men approach women with that all-important first message. I thought it was supposed to be a question of first impressions and making them count. So why is it […]
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Romantic Florence

The Four Date Rule

Long and intense have been the discussions as to how many dates it is reasonable to go on before one sleeps with someone.  Having garnered opinion from both sexes the general consensus appears to be; two dates if you aren’t that bothered about seeing them again but four if you think you would like to […]
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Romantic meeting

Sam-I-Am

In this blog, I wish to introduce my delightful ‘Sam’ to you in preparation for a variety of odd and hilarious situations we have encountered together. We met via an online dating site years ago, we developed  a surprising friendship and we have kept in touch intermittently ever since. Sam is not his real name, […]
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Self-adoration

When Looking in the Mirror…

Let’s get one thing straight … you ain’t no supermodel. In comparison with the average woman you probably come, well, average. I doubt your face is totally symmetrical or that you are totally cellulite free. You could have one boob bigger than the other and a slightly wider jaw than is deemed delicate on a […]
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Dating advice for women and younger men

9 Rules for Dating Younger Men

So you’re a “cougar”. Pretty cool, right? I mean, Demi Moore did it (and yeah, it didn’t work out well with Ashton, but it happens). Still, the whole world watched in awe as a hot older woman managed to snag a younger, sexy bachelor. Since then, older women dating younger men has headed toward the “mainstream” […]
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Ice-Breaking Over The Internet

So you have spent time trawling Toyboy Warehouse looking for that one person whose profile pics get your heart beat racing and whose bio has your tongue tripping lovingly over each syllable. Great news: you already know they’re single! All that’s left to do is send a message and say hello. Well… urm, now what? A whole […]
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Don’t Judge Books by Their Covers

A teacher at my primary school once held up a boring looking copy of The Hobbit, and said ‘Don’t judge a book by it’s cover.’ It was a few more years before I could remain interested in any literature with less pictures than The Beano, but after reading The Hobbit I realised that my boring teacher had said something worth […]
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Older woman dating

Dating The Boss: Part 2

I remember once having a discussion with a friend on this point and stating the very obvious. If he dated an older lady with a well-established, lucrative career, he had to expect that she would probably earn more than him and enjoy a better lifestyle. Not only that, but she would have worked really hard […]
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Older woman dating

Love in Springtime

Where I live, it’s really lovely to see sunshine, flowers in bloom or bud, and birds courting and nesting. New growth and new life is on the way: it’s an exciting time. Yes, the first signs of spring have arrived and I’m really enjoying watching them this year. So, is it also time for a […]
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Older woman dating

30 Days of Blogs: Our Top 4 Revelations

30 Days of Blogs culminated yesterday and what an incredible month we have shared through insightful and entertaining blogs. Some of these were informed by scientific fact, and some by tried and tested experience. However, what each shares at the core is a message that challenges the way we view dating. If you didn’t read […]
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