First Messages: Why It’s Good To Talk

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Woman with tape measure
“It’s good to talk…” Is it? Really? Since returning, I haven’t yet spoken with anyone on the phone but seem to have had dozens of phone numbers thrown in my direction from people with whom I’ve had no contact. What’s that all about? I don’t want to pick up the phone to someone that I […]
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Toyboy Warehouse Cougar Julia
 While having afternoon Pimms at the Wolseley…   J: What I don’t understand is why some guys upload headless torso shots! I mean, apart from the fact that dissected body parts aren’t attractive, you wouldn’t recognize the bloke when going on the date!   W: You’d be surprised what some women send!   J: Women?! […]
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Home Jane
I had just bought my first flat.  I’d always sworn I’d never live in a ground floor flat, but I absolutely fell in love with this one, and purchased it despite my concerns about safety on the ground floor.  So, when I need to get some work done in my new home, I was already […]
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Wendy Salisbury
They’re bagging up the leaves in my road.  Hurrah! I cry.  Bring on the autumn:  a light chill in the air, the soil moist from the day’s downpour, nights drawing in, curtains closed by 7.30, fire crackling in the grate, a hearty casserole simmering on the hob… candles glowing, easygoing, toe-to-toe-ing as we cuddle on […]
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Bastian Dash
They say you never forget how to ride a bike…    Mind you I was a late developer on that score; I’m ashamed to say it took me a few formative years longer than I bet it did most of you to kick the stabilizer habit. Still, once I found the guts to finally risk a […]
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KatJG
‘Younger men are queuing up for a cougar to love’ says today’s Independent on Sunday (22.8.10) but the middle-aged American man, Rich Gosse, who has apparently spent 15 years ‘championing older women’ still falls into the age-old, male-dominated society mindset of concluding that women ‘prefer older men’. Well… maybe he thinks that because he’s middle […]
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Coming back to Toyboy Warehouse
Yes, I’m back. I always say that I won’t be, that I’m going to do grown-up dating, get a sensible boyfriend and have a ‘proper relationship’. But really I should just sit down and have a cup of tea until the feeling passes… Recently I wondered why it is that I even bother to say […]
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Letting go
I love those little unexpected moments that hit from time to time.  There I was sitting alone in front of a ridiculously large salt beef on rye (with horseradish and a gherkin obviously!) and a glass of Pimm’s. I had spent the afternoon in the West End and was having a well earned break from […]
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Cougar cartoon
Gentleman – if you are expecting this to be The User’s Manual complete with useful diagrams for those tricky complicated parts– disappointment for now. You will have to wait until Volume 2.  Ladies first after all… So what do woman want? Well – if I am to take seriously the spate of articles I have […]
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The Rebound
Whilst men have been dating younger women forever, a woman dating a younger man is still a relative novelty, a theme explored in new movie The Rebound starring Catherine Zeta Jones. The term ‘Cougar’ has recently been coined which I’m not sure has helped as it has rather predatory connotations for older women ‘preying’ on […]
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