How low would you go?
I was incensed recently when on another ‘regular’ dating website I received a generic email from it’s owner, laying down the law about approaching people on his site that were younger than you. In his ignorance he had used an example of an older man approaching a younger woman (it was as if the reverse of this had not even occurred to him!) He then stipulated the magic number of 15 years making it impossible for anyone above this magic number approaching someone younger than them by any more than that. So approaching a person of say 15 years and 3 months younger than you would be impossible as your efforts would be blocked and vetoed!!
I was bemused, apparently he was trying to make the site more about relationships and less about ‘hook ups’ (his words). So by definition he was saying that age gap relationships (well those of 15 years or more) would only ever be about sexual encounters. The man must be a clairvoyant if he is able to be so accurate in his predictions.
Age gaps were only one of many areas he was restricting and I have yet to find out whether he has in fact put his plans into action. I wrote him a fairly stiff reply and as yet am awaiting on an answer. In the meantime my profile with the bold heading of ‘Looking for a devoted toyboy’ remains unaltered but my affection for the site is now marred.
Had his dictatorial edict been in place a few years ago I would not have met two lovely guys, one of whom remains in my affections to this day. Yes! The age gap was in fact twice the magic number 15 (oh dear) and yes I hesitated and questioned myself. But after numerous phone conversations I agreed to an afternoon drink. I was struck immediately by his youth (20) and my inner voice was telling me that he probably was too young. But the afternoon passed in interesting conversation and by the end of it the chemistry was off the Richter scale.
Nevertheless I was resigned to not progressing it further, even though the saying “old head on young shoulders” was never more apt. As we said our good byes I remained resolute until he kissed me. As my stomach left the room…somersaulted twice and then floated away into the ether, I was visibly shaken. But I stuck to my guns, showed him the door and then pondered.
He text me afterwards and was keen to meet again. I dithered and deliberated and weeks passed and then one night I stopped fighting with myself and we had date two. Suffice to say It was mind blowing. Our relationship blossomed as did our affection and remains in place to some degree today, and yes ladies the sex was breathtaking.
Now according to that particular ‘traditional’ dating website owner I would not have been allowed this wonderful experience. No we aren’t getting married or even going to live together but does that lessen the experience we had? Dating is all about people! meeting people, talking to people, having sex with people. And just to clarify ‘people’ come in all sizes all shapes and all age groups. Attraction is an awkward bugger and unfortunately it doesn’t count calories, inches or age gaps.
So when you meet someone you are attracted to, don’t let people’s preconceived prejudices or judgments put you off. Seize the moment and take a chance. You might discover like I did that you can find love in the most unsuitable of places. Thank god for free choice and websites like Toyboy Warehouse!
This blog was written by ‘GBird‘ a member of Toyboy Warehouse and author of Sex and the Signposts.
*Admin Note:
As a result of recent restrictions on other dating sites, we’re proud to announce that we have extended our upper age limit from 70 to 79.
No matter your shape, size or age you can find love, lust or romance on Toyboy Warehouse.
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