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Can we ever really just be ourselves?

I love those little unexpected moments that hit from time to time.  There I was sitting alone in front of a ridiculously large salt beef on rye (with horseradish and a gherkin obviously!) and a glass of Pimm’s. I had spent the afternoon in the West End and was having a well earned break from […]
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Bastian Dash

Bastian Reloaded

Okay, there comes a point in every Toyman’s life… Remember that? Me sat on a beach almost three years ago pondering the onset of an unfulfilled future, well romantically anyway. And look what went on to happen next; the quest for a third way, a Hamletesque guilt trip over shags I should or should not […]
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Cougar cartoon

What Women Want

Gentleman – if you are expecting this to be The User’s Manual complete with useful diagrams for those tricky complicated parts– disappointment for now. You will have to wait until Volume 2.  Ladies first after all… So what do woman want? Well – if I am to take seriously the spate of articles I have […]
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Single Dad dating online

The Trials of a Dating Daddy

I’m a father. I’m a dater. I’m a pigeon-hole hater! (how very Steve Miller Band!) Some background information:I have a son, who shall be 6 years young on Wednesday (at this age, age is anything but a number -how he and I differ so!!), he’s a glorious human being.  His mother and I broke up before […]
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Man at the beach

Enforced Celibacy

Tragic, but it happens. Sometimes we go without. For a few months in my case. I suppose there are various reasons why this awful state of being can come to pass – being a lighthouse keeper, being forced into a convent (although I’m sure those nuns sometimes… sorry, I mustn’t lose my train of thought…), […]
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The Rebound

Cougar Tips: For Women Dating Toyboys

Whilst men have been dating younger women forever, a woman dating a younger man is still a relative novelty, a theme explored in new movie The Rebound starring Catherine Zeta Jones. The term ‘Cougar’ has recently been coined which I’m not sure has helped as it has rather predatory connotations for older women ‘preying’ on […]
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Flagpoles

Its been a pretty busy few months since my father passed away.  And to be honest, since I put The Man out of my life, I thought it was time to take a step back, not date anyone, age appropriate or otherwise for a while. You know, just enjoy being with the children, having a […]
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