It may not come as a surprise but the single biggest cause of divorce is, in fact, marriage. So what is it about this frequently destructive mechanism that has so many heading to their Solicitor? It may well have a lot to do with the feeling so many women have, that their needs are put […]
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I’ve just had a slightly surreal experience doing a live link to an Australian Breakfast TV Show.  On Saturday night, around the time I would normally be winding down with a hot toyboy or a winding up with a cool book (both would be perfect!) I was whisked off to the Pacific Studios in the […]
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You can date a guy for ages and never spend a weekend away with him, or, you can both go away when you are just getting to know him, and so it was with an Englishman – Mr Martini – I met recently. Last weekend I went to stay at his place in the English countryside. […]
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1) You can’t force attraction. If a girl thinks you’re sweet, she probably doesn’t fancy you. Attraction has been around for millions of years, way before texts, e-mails and picture messages. She either fancies you or she doesn’t and you can’t force anyone to be attracted to you. If a woman is interested in a […]
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When one needs escape, one goes on holiday… I did it before if you recall. My “Playa Bastian” reflective blues on what lies ahead. Well what lies ahead is creeping up very fast. I’m thirty-five very soon. Thirty-five! But that’s one for another fireside. So far I’ve still got time. Just. Anyway recently I shipped […]
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Just to fill you in on the back story to this new excerpt: Calm Best Friend and I are in the Alps on a ski trip.  She has succumbed to a bout of food poisoning and is confined to bed.  I’m having a little flirtette with the Hotel Manager (Hot Frog) who has no idea […]
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After working extensively in the field for several years, I’ve clarified my experience into the following: 1)   Work out what it is YOU want from the boy and be honest with yourself and him. If you want to go out with him, don’t pretend to yourself that you just want to be mates, or just […]
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Following on from one of the recent news items on here, I thought I might share one with you. It actually happened years ago, one of my very first experiences of internet dating and one that put me off it for years in fact. I joined Udate… it must have been in 1999 or 2000 […]
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We all know that when we meet people from the site they don’t always look exactly how they do in their photos, or maybe in our exuberance we forget to look at the height section, but still!!        I get a lot of messages on the site, not always sensitive and intelligent and they mostly […]
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What is a woman to do when she is struggling to find herself after years of being hidden away? This is the question I posed myself. The answer came loud and clear from somewhere inside me, the part, I suspect, desperate to escape. ‘Burlesque’ it screamed…… Setting up this adventure required a little research and […]
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