Not the 80’s hits from UB40 or Hue & Cry I’m talking about the similarities between getting an interview and a date on the Internet (or newspaper ad) So why are you after partner/job?   Well it’s either because you haven’t got one or the one you have is going to see you on anti-depressants […]
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I’m thirty-five. I’ve been saying this very slowly for the past couple of weeks or so. Thirty-Five. You know come this August six years ago BD didn’t even exist. He wasn’t yet even a glint in the eye of my “Before”. Still, Tempus fugit huh… Thing is though, I want to approach this admittedly “stops […]
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Its been a long, long time since I’ve written about my first boyfriend.   His name was Bobby Ray and we were in 8th grade.   He was the best looking boy in our class, possibly the entire school.   He had these hazel eyes that twinkled with flecks of gold like God dusted them himself.  […]
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It may not come as a surprise but the single biggest cause of divorce is, in fact, marriage. So what is it about this frequently destructive mechanism that has so many heading to their Solicitor? It may well have a lot to do with the feeling so many women have, that their needs are put […]
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I’ve just had a slightly surreal experience doing a live link to an Australian Breakfast TV Show.  On Saturday night, around the time I would normally be winding down with a hot toyboy or a winding up with a cool book (both would be perfect!) I was whisked off to the Pacific Studios in the […]
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You can date a guy for ages and never spend a weekend away with him, or, you can both go away when you are just getting to know him, and so it was with an Englishman – Mr Martini – I met recently. Last weekend I went to stay at his place in the English countryside. […]
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1) You can’t force attraction. If a girl thinks you’re sweet, she probably doesn’t fancy you. Attraction has been around for millions of years, way before texts, e-mails and picture messages. She either fancies you or she doesn’t and you can’t force anyone to be attracted to you. If a woman is interested in a […]
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When one needs escape, one goes on holiday… I did it before if you recall. My “Playa Bastian” reflective blues on what lies ahead. Well what lies ahead is creeping up very fast. I’m thirty-five very soon. Thirty-five! But that’s one for another fireside. So far I’ve still got time. Just. Anyway recently I shipped […]
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Just to fill you in on the back story to this new excerpt: Calm Best Friend and I are in the Alps on a ski trip.  She has succumbed to a bout of food poisoning and is confined to bed.  I’m having a little flirtette with the Hotel Manager (Hot Frog) who has no idea […]
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After working extensively in the field for several years, I’ve clarified my experience into the following: 1)   Work out what it is YOU want from the boy and be honest with yourself and him. If you want to go out with him, don’t pretend to yourself that you just want to be mates, or just […]
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