Bad news singles: the results of a new survey show that dating rules and habits have changed. Again. But even though the playing field has become a bit of uncharted territory, some traditional dating dos and don’ts still apply.
“It’s important for singles to know that the dating rules have changed,” says Relationship Expert, Whitney Casey. “This study finds that dating behaviours drastically differ between the ages. Younger singles are more likely to friend their date on Facebook, communicate by text after a date, and be evasive about their availability if they’re not interested in a second date. Whereas older singles are more cautious when it comes to dating in the digital era.”
That said, here are the eight dating habits – new and old – you need to know about.
1. He asks, she pays. The one traditional dating “do” that still stands is the general belief men are supposed to make the first move. However, 41% of women would offer to pick up the cheque on a first date.
2. All it takes is 15 minutes. To decide if you and your date have chemistry, that is. 31% of both men and women agree that 15 minutes of a date is all it takes to decide. Worried your next date will bail if he’s not into you? Don’t, because it was found only 12 % of singles would actually leave before the night was over.
3. Honesty is (still) the best policy. Not enjoying your time out with what’s his name? Tell him. The survey found 52% of singles think it’s best to politely tell your date if you’re not interested, and we agree. Neither party gets anything out of being dishonest, and you never know when you’ll run into him or her again later in life. Remember: manners matter.
4. Don’t go all the way. At least not until well after your first date. 80% of singles agree that you should not have sex on the first date. Holding out on your date builds mystery, and if your date can get it all in one night, they’re less motivated to call back for round two.
5. It’s OK to follow-up. It’s just a matter of when. 48% of women like to follow up after a first date within 24 hours where as 68% of men like to “play it cool” and extend the follow-up to almost three days after your date.
6. Classic communication is best. In this digital era, there are hundreds of ways to follw up on a date: text, e-mail, instant message, etc. But surprisingly enough the survey found 80% of singles prefer to talk over the phone.
7. Yes, you can Facebook friend your date. Ah, the social media dilemma that plagues all singles. As far as friend requesting your date goes, 21% of young singles say it’s OK to request a friend after 2-3 dates while 11% of older singles wait until the relationship is exclusive to do so. These low percentages mean keep your add-friend trigger finger under control while in the early phase of dating.
8. Spend time with your friends. Sometimes your friends get a bad rap when it comes to dating, but 50% of men and 35% of women will introduce their dates to their friends within the first month of dating, regardless of how old they are.
Tell us – what do you think of these dating changes? Agree? Disagree?
Source: Your Tango
