‘Stop the world, I want to get off’…..Well, you can! For a very grown up Alice, Wonderland is accessible. It doesn’t require mind altering drugs, just life enhancing experiences. Each one perfect in its isolation yet, like the finest pearls, when strung together, glorious.
Life for many of us is incredibly full on and the need to occasionally escape and get back to the core of our being is, I think, vital to maintain sanity and perspective. Fortunately I have found a man who thinks the same and, together, we escape.
This isn’t about a relationship in any conventional sense of the word, we both have too many other things going on in our lives to afford the time. This is about two people who come together to give each other totally undivided attention and feast on a banquet of pleasures. Each wholly accepting of the other with an unspoken understanding of the freedom that brings. For precious hours a world of passion, honesty, peace and humour is unveiled. There are none of the issues which are inherent in a more typical relationship. When will I see him next? Where is he tonight? Where is this going? Not wanting to burden the other with the minutiae of the trials and tribulations of daily life (unless, of course, it’s a funny story, in which case it has to be shared – he’s very good at that!). None of these are relevant when you know you are with someone of a like mind, someone who is there, with you, enjoying the moment.
When the time comes, each of us disappears into the darkness. Back to our other lives but carrying with us contentment derived from the fulfilment of desires and the satisfaction of good company. That contentment fuels the energy needed to meet the challenges of my everyday madness, secure in the knowledge that I have a place to which I can escape.
It isn’t that I am discontented with my life, far from it. I feel I have unlocked myself in the last three years and I love the richness of the life I have found. However I have always been a person of extremes and my escape, with its healing qualities, is the antithesis to my job which, in essence, deals with managing emotional damage. A balance is achieved somehow. The escape is flawless, it is a self contained microcosm.
The man who shares this with me respects the intensely personal and private nature of our liaisons. This is not a public relationship. That in itself makes it all the more precious. Its simplicity makes perfect sense because it doesn’t add to the complications of life, it boldly separates itself from them. In doing so it provides an antidote. When I am with him I am enthralled by his presence. Every touch, every word….
So I jump out of the everyday into the extraordinary, a skilled escapologist who has found Wonderland.
By Three Wishes
