I hear from other women who date younger men that they often stay attracted to a particular age group, and this whole issue of attraction renders me curious.

I’m fairly fixed in my habit of dating younger men, and have pretty well accepted that, as it’s been the case for almost 20 years now. Personally, I’ve never been drawn to really spectacular age differences, although I have nothing against it. Obviously, I wouldn’t be a member of this website if I did! The age gap I feel comfortable with is around 10-18 years and it seems to be pretty fixed.

In my 30s, I was dating men in their 20s and as I became older, so did my dates. At every stage, I’ve appreciated different things about my partners.

Now, I notice my attraction is definitely shifting to ‘older’ men. Although I enjoy looking at younger guys, it’s more an artistic, distant enjoyment than a lust thing. No, the men who really fire me up these days are definitely more rugged, with ‘lived-in’ faces and bodies. Oh, my crushes are still much younger than I am, but I am definitely looking at the odd grey hair and laughter line with a real sense of appreciation, hoping for a mature outlook. In fact, I would say I am now looking out for these signs of maturity.

So what’s going on? Is the ‘age gap attraction’ going to continue to be fixed for me, or is it really on the move in a spectacular way? I have no idea, but it will be interesting! Those elusive qualities of compatibility and chemistry still need to be present, whatever mysterious changes are occurring.

Anyway, are there any men in their 40s out there, who still fancy older women? You know who you are! (Having said that, a 30-something with a mature outlook might do just as well…)

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Apparently, I really don’t look my age. This is a comment I’ve been receiving a great deal over the past couple of months. At first I was flattered, but now I’m becoming slightly irritated by it.

In a few months, I will be 55. It doesn’t bother me, the age. Everyone ages, like it or not. I have far bigger things to worry about than grieving over the loss of my dewy youthful looks, which I never appreciated at the time anyway. I’m more concerned with the deeper issues of identity and who I am at this stage of my life; what I want to experience and do. I have plans. I have dreams. I have projects and goals to achieve. I have a very special bucket list of hopes and wishes!

These days I am waking up with slight joint pain and stiffness, especially on winter mornings and I have a small bunion on one of my toes. Do you know what? It’s not the end of the world. I find that exercise, a challenging professional role and having a teenage kid still at school do wonders for your energy levels. Oh and dating younger men, which always puts the spring into one’s step. I find they are not bothered by my bunion, bless them; it ignores them and they ignore it, we happily co-exist, a most excellent outcome for all concerned.

What am I supposed to do, say or be that would make me ‘look my age’? Well, the unspoken messages are very interesting indeed. Looking my age seems to be something to do with routine. I have recently changed employers and I’m about to start a course which could lead to a new career. Apparently I’m not supposed to do either of those things. I should be gardening, a past-time which I can’t abide although I love being in the wild. I should be interested in home improvements, again, not an interest of mine. As long as I’m reasonably comfortable, material things are not a major concern. I’m not supposed to change my appearance, either by gaining wrinkles or reducing them. Ha!

And very importantly, I’m supposed to be married but not enjoy full womanhood any longer because apparently I’m something called ‘post-menopausal’. Well, married I am not and as for celibacy…are you kidding?  Torrential kisses, sleepy cuddles and everything in between are a vital part of feeling alive as far as I’m concerned. As for the post-menopausal state, well that is something that can happen between less than 40 and 60 years of age, a gradual process which can take up to 10 years to complete. Popular culture is an ignoramus of the worst kind, certain and smug despite its alarming lack of knowledge.

My life has never followed the traditional cohort transitions. Apparently I didn’t begin work at ‘the right time’, I did not find a mate at ‘the right time’, and I certainly did not have children at this non-existent period. Neither will I be retiring at ‘the right time’.  And what’s more, I’m grateful. My life has been tough, challenging, painful, frustrating and also sweet, delightful and funny. But it’s made me grow into the person I am now and I like who I am.

What people probably mean is that I don’t tick their checklists. I’m relatively wrinkle-free and I’m curious about everything. I have learned that the older I become, the more there is to learn. I don’t look like the perceptions of someone my age, but neither do most of the people I know who are in my peer group! I suspect these perceptions are probably based on the assumption that the current 55 is the old 75.

So when I look at my face every morning in the mirror, I know that I do look my age. Moreover, I like what I see. Oh, I may not look as fresh-faced as I did when I was twenty-five, thirty-five or forty-five. But this is what my age looks like. I feel absolutely comfortable in my own skin! As long as I can, I will enjoy the breeze on my face, the scent of wet earth, the taste of fresh pomelo and gazing up at the sky to watch the flight of birds and the wonder of the moon and stars on a clear night. I will look for kindred spirits to accompany me, irrespective of their years.

Whatever my chronological age or physical state, I will be what I’ve always been, a free spirit in my own skin, a dancer on the edge of time, splashing in the puddles, searching for rainbows, for the many forms of love and for new wonders. I will still be dancing to a different, primal beat as the synchronised cohorts march past in military fashion. And I will not be the only one.

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What is it that people want when they are looking for that particular brand of age-gap love where she is older than him, whether that’s by 5 years or 35 years? Here are 5 suggestions:

1. The Great Romance.

For the folk who want to be truly, madly, deeply, soulfully in lust but are not ready for the boring aspects of anything steady. This is the couple who want to block out the rest of the world, enjoy the glorious passion and intensity of new love without the dampener of commitment. This couple can spend long weekends in the bedroom, or any other room, living on adrenaline alone. This is a love affair they will remember all their lives.

2.The Hit and Run.

The people who are after ‘hook ups’, casual sex, something temporary and transient. This is for the ladies of a certain age who committed to marriage or a partnership perhaps too young, missed out on fun and often had their hearts broken relatively late on. It’s also for the boys who want as much libidinous experience as they can find, without the bother or expense of romantic illusion, with someone who knows what they are doing. It seems to me that this is where the largest age gaps occur. What does it matter if the two never meet again? That, after all, was the intention.

3. The Lovers.

These folk are looking for someone warm and compatible, wanting to enjoy the moment with someone very special but they are not interested in anything too serious. They are just not ready or willing for anything long term…yet. They want tenderness, understanding, someone to talk to and share activities with. They quite enjoy being out in public with one another. It’s similar to ‘friends with benefits’, except the ‘friends’ aspect is more prevalent than the ‘benefits’. Sometimes this can evolve into ‘the great romance’ or even ‘the long haul’.

4. The Long Haul

This is for those wanting a long-term relationship, to settle down, to marry and/or have children. These people are rare and perhaps with the narrowest age gaps of all, but the courageous man who desires such a relationship has normally realised that an older woman who shares his desire is better at seeing the bigger picture and more easy-going than his contemporaries.

5. The Adaptable.

Age-gap daters of the toyboy/cougar variety do seem a particularly unconventional group, and they demonstrate this heterogeneity in a variety of ways. There are those who are quite content to begin in one of the above categories and move into one or several of the others. Then, there are those who invent their own unique category!

Whatever you’re looking for, if using online dating, it would seem highly prudent to read and digest profiles, to be clear about what the other person wants, before making that first contact!

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So here I am on a Sunday morning, school uniforms rotating in the tumble dryer, sat at my PC with a hot mug of tea. With a slightly unfocused mind from cumulative lack of sleep, I’m trying to decide on the subject of my last blog before New Year. This blog is targeted at people who are considering indulging themselves by joining Toyboy Warehouse (TBW).

It’s just two and a half weeks to go before the extended seasonal holiday and that is only two shopping weekends left.  Slight hysteria rises as I think about it. Yes, we’re approaching Christmas again, with its current materialism, shopping frenzies and hedonistic aspects. . I love Christmas, but sometimes feel as though I’m on the set of the film ‘Groundhog Day’, with events repeating themselves interminably.

This can be one of the loneliest times of the year for some people. For single people, being with extended family can make it worse. There may be jokes and questions about settling down, hideous presents and even more hideous conversations, yet again demonstrating a lack of understanding or tolerance about who you are. For others, there is no family and time is often spent completely alone whilst friends are with their relations.

Yet hidden somewhere within it all is a deep celebration of the meaning of real love and ultimate selfless giving; a time for family, close friends, laughter and simple pleasures; a season to reflect on what really matters in life.

I joined TBW almost 2 years ago as a bit of a joke actually, persuaded by a male friend who intermittently ‘signs on’ to the website. It’s never been a regret that I joined. Previous to TBW, I had dated and been in some relationships with younger men since before I became a mother late in life. They have ranged from 1 year younger (which doesn’t really count), to a whopping 23 years younger. (Yes, the latter was legal: he was in his early twenties and I was in my forties at the time). I do actually enjoy being with some men my age and older as well! A man’s personality and that intangible attraction and ‘fit’ is far more important to me than any other factor.

In one of my previous blogs, Hope, Morality and Happiness, I explained that I started ‘dating younger’ because I was so disillusioned by dating men of a similar age who turned out to be unavailable. By that, I mean they had either concealed the fact they were either married or in a long term relationship or they told me they intended to cheat. With me, if possible. Well, I was not interested in that kind of lifestyle.

One day, aged 37 years young, I met a delightful, beautiful and bright younger man in a gym. He made no secret of the fact that he was attracted to me. I decided he was lovely and the relationship evolved naturally. It was an absolute breath of fresh air: no secrets, nothing inconvenient he ‘forgot’ to tell me, everything open, honest and straightforward. He was a 22 year old university student from another city on an extended work placement with his course. We just enjoyed being together for a few months; he even moved in with me for a little while. While it lasted, we made each other happy; it was as simple as that.

Since then, I have always considered dating younger men, but they have been the kind of people I would get on with irrespective of age. TBW has increased my dating pool, given me more options and allowed me to meet some great guys. It’s proved to be quite a community of like-minded people, despite the very great variations in members’ ages, backgrounds and the types of relationships sought.

So, to any waverers, I would say, by all means give Toyboy Warehouse a try! You have little to lose. In my opinion, the best present anyone can give at this time of year is the gift of themselves.

There are so many boys and girls out there who have been really good all year. You might find the present they really deserve, that can make all the difference this Christmas is… you!

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It Will Never Last!

This is one of the commonest responses to the reality of a man having any kind of relationship with a considerably older woman. In November 2014, I was watching the news and a piece with the wonderful Gillian Lynne DBE was featured. This lady (and she is a lady), who can only be described in superlatives, is a former ballet and jazz dancer, director and choreographer, particularly of theatre and musicals. She was the original designer of dance for the hit show ‘Cats’ and is currently working on a new version. This amazing woman is now 88 years of age, elegant, attractive, modest and incredibly, moving gracefully without any mobility aids. She has said she can never imagine giving up working, as she felt her body would stop functioning.

Why am I writing about her in this particular blog on age gap relationships? Well, what is less well known about her is that her husband, the actor Peter Land, is 27 years younger than she is. They married in 1980, when she was 54 and he was 27. How long have they been married? Almost 35 years and despite one separation after 18 years, they reunited and are still happy together. ₁ As Gillian puts it herself, “The day you can’t be bothered with sex, you’ve had it…”₂

For those who enjoy this kind of age gap relationship, here is another great role model. I’m sure this couple faced negative reaction at the time and I could place a bet on the supposition that she faced criticism from many for depriving her younger partner of all sorts of happiness.

My own parents married in the 1950s and are from very different ethnic groups and cultures, although it is my father who is the elder. They faced prejudice and expectations from what are now called ‘haters’ that their marriage would soon crumble. Replete with children and grandchildren, they are still proving all the doom-mongers wrong by heading contentedly towards their 60^th wedding anniversary.

The sad reality is that most relationships these days will not last. That some face more obstacles than others, cannot be denied, but no relationship is perfect. How does anyone know in advance which will be successful and which will not? Such concrete predictions are not possible and the value and depth of any relationship can only be demonstrated with time. After all, the only certainty about human life is its demise. Let’s take the calculated risks we need to and celebrate every day we have, investing in quality! That way, we may surprise ourselves with the longevity of our loving. If it doesn’t last, well, we should be proud of at least trying and having time together which made a difference.

In the final analysis, relationships between consenting adults are the business of nobody but the people involved.

So, a toast to Gillian Lynne and Peter Land: long may you keep living and loving! And… I can’t wait to see the new version of ‘Cats’.

1-    http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/celebritynews/my-perfect-weekend/10449074/My-perfect-weekend-Gillian-Lynne-dancer-and-choreographer.html

2-    http://www.express.co.uk/entertainment/theatre/280672/Dance-Review-I-m-85-the-day-you-can-t-be-bothered-with-sex-you-ve-had-it

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I read an article in last weekend’s Sunday Times about cougars in France, noting that the new economy minister (aged 36) is married to a 56 year old. The piece suggests that such couples are becoming a bit of a social phenomenon there, with 20% of first time brides in 2012 being older than their spouses_1. This got me pondering: exactly what are the unique features of age gap dating where a man is considerably younger than a woman? Are there any at all or is it the same as any couple dating, irrespective of age?

So I had a chat with my friend, Mr Committed Toy, let’s refer to him as ‘CT’ for convenience. He’s the one who informed me of the existence of toyboywarehouse.com a number of years ago and encouraged me to join. CT shared some of his long experience in dating women older than he is and what makes it so addictive. Together here is what we devised, 5 key differences when older women date younger men:

1. Older women are in themselves an aphrodisiac for younger guys – the stuff of fantasy, social taboos and possibly evoking memories of sexual awakening as adolescents. She is likely to have at least one of the following when compared to women his own age: more independence, more confidence, more financial prowess, a better education. She’ll definitely have more life experience in general and possibly more sexual experience, although not necessarily. All of this can lead back for some to memories of first sexual crushes on more powerful females, heady stuff!
2. Younger men may find themselves in the novel role of sex object, admired and pursued for their physical beauty, in a clear role reversal of normal expectations. Being desired in this way, by someone who definitely does not need you in order to function, but who wants you despite that, can be an irresistibly powerful experience.
3. This kind of relationship will involve a certain degree of reversal in power dynamics, which can be really exciting and erotic. Younger men may find themselves playing a much more submissive role than they are used to in relationships, with the woman being more directive and dominant. That may lead on to exploring a wide variety of psychosexual interests- I’m sure you can use your imaginations on that point!
4. For some, taboo is part of what makes this age gap dating so attractive. In the Sunday Times article, Eric Zammour is quoted as lamenting the ‘feminisation’ of French manhood and the loss of patriarchy; other powerful influences call upon ‘the natural order’, ‘moral compasses’ or religious teaching to justify why young men should not be with older women. But we all know that the more something is anti-establishment, the more seductive it can be. Young men have always been instrumental in experimenting, exploring their own identity, breaking rules and driving social change. Age gap dating of this kind attracts free thinkers, idealists, rebels and intellectuals of both sexes, people who like to create their own rules.
5. The female biological clock. According to research by Michael Dahan of Montreal University, an older woman who can still have children will be driven by biology to find a mate “as young as she can get”, because he will possess better quality sperm. I’m not sure about that. I would have thought, assuming no other factors were coming into play, that this kind of relationship should then be much more common than it actually is.

As for CT, he says he’s quite happy if other men don’t have the same dating interests, as: “It means there’s more choice for me!”

I feel that whatever the age gap, there still needs to be some common ground, an attraction and affection, an overlap of needs. Expectations and values between the individuals involved. Having said that, this dating niche exerts an explosive power. Once you light the touch paper, you may find the fireworks never stop!

1-    France purrs as les cougars go prowling, The Sunday Times, 26 October 2014, p.33

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The idea arises from the classic romance by Jane Austen, You may have read the novel or watched a film version, (or possibly have been forced to watch the film version under sufferance when dating). Its main character is the eternally matchmaking busybody ‘heroine’, Emma, who has a very elderly, querulous father who needs caring for. Of course, this fictional family are wealthy and have servants to do all the chores, allowing Emma complete freedom to interfere in other people’s lives. She doesn’t face constant boring domestic drudgery, she ends up with the man of her dreams and simultaneously manages to organise her life around the needs of her father.

However, her essential dilemma in is still one faced by women in their 40s and above on online dating websites like Toyboy Warehouse. Some have found at this age that serious ill health often strikes the generation above, sometimes completely unexpectedly. When this happens, it’s frequently a daughter who will take on the caring role for parents, aunts or uncles.

Over the last year, I’ve seen this happen with at least five female colleagues and friends. The circumstances are all different but once a caring element has been established, it’s far from a stable situation. In fact, the role seems to take up an increasing amount of time and energy. In every situation I’ve known, the elderly person involved seems to have suffered relapses or an additional catastrophic blow to their health. It’s as if the older people are suddenly confronted by their own mortality and their bodies respond by becoming very frail. Someone I know (not myself) took on all the practical responsibility of caring for an elderly mother, even living with her, because as opposed to her siblings, this lady was single and childless. Perhaps it was the right thing to do, perhaps not, but it took over her entire life and she was left very lonely for a number of years. Just because someone has caring responsibilities should not mean they are completely deprived of any physical comfort or romantic pleasure.

So, your love interest is in this age group? It’s too easy to build fantasies of a beautiful, sophisticated older woman with no commitments (other than seeing you)! It’s best not to assume that because she has no young dependants, she has totally flexible spare time. Ask some questions first, find out about her life and be sure you are clear about her expectations.

Looking for a mature woman with elderly relatives to look after may well be looking for long term companionship as an ideal. However, with complex caring commitments which may be slowly taking more of her time, she may only be able to accommodate something in the moment. Casual fun, a short-term affectionate affair or an arrangement with open-ended commitment may be the only practical options. If you get on well and want to take things beyond ‘date four’, negotiate what your relationship will be like and make sure you’re looking for the same things. Be honest with yourself about whether you have sufficient reserves of compassion and understanding to get involved in the first place. Be prepared for dating arrangements to have to change at very short notice.

If a loved parent dies, especially one where a caring role existed, most women will be utterly devastated and distraught, so be kind and supportive to her. When lives are entwined in this way, an enormous void is left, the day-to-day arrangements and habits of life collapse and must be reshaped, there may be a difficult period in terms of a reworking of life.

At any age, the intense grief of bereavement sometimes unleashes an unbearable loneliness. It’s not that well known but sometimes the depth of this grief means people need physical comfort in a way that they don’t under normal circumstances. They can behave in a way which is totally out of character. It’s a normal human reaction, so if she really needs your body, do the compassionate thing: give generously and be kind. She will really appreciate the comfort of skin on skin and you get to feel heroic doing what comes naturally!

Someone who is strong enough to take on caring voluntarily is likely to be a very brave soul with an incredibly generous heart. We could all do with a few more people like that in our lives!

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Like many women who enjoy being around younger men, part of the attraction for me is the ability – for once – to live in the moment. It’s so liberating to be entirely in the present and in my experience, young guys usually inhabit the Space-time continuum of the Now with considerable energy! I appreciate that very much.

With someone young or even young at heart, I can escape planning for the future, with all its uncertainties, anxieties and hopefully joys, which lodge in my wishes for my children. I don’t need to consider the past, my regrets or my satisfactions, either. Of course I bring all these things with me to the date; they are an intrinsic part of me, but I want to experience something different.

What I want to do is enjoy the ‘now’: something which is a rarity in my day-to-day life. I want to go on dates where I am totally involved with the new person I’m getting to know, where I can share fun, laughs and light-heartedness with a new man. I want a clean slate, a breath of fresh air, to be immersed in the present and the man I’m with.

It’s totally liberating for a while to have no responsibilities, no expectations and no decisions to make beyond whether we meet again or not. The young adult times of fantasising about weddings, honeymoons and babies during dates one to four are long over for me. My fantasies are a little bit more adult these days and might stretch to fleeting thoughts of bedroom antics, but that’s as far as it goes. Most of the time, I’m genuinely interested in my date and want to spend my limited time away from responsibilities to learn as much about him as I can. Hopefully, that will be mutual. Fantasies can wait until the date itself is over.

Dating is a break from the humdrum for me. I’m relieved to relax into pleasant conversation and company and maybe a shared meal or activity. Dating means time out from my overstretched routine, where time strains at the seams with the amount I need to pack into my days. Dating is a chance to breathe again, to savour life and renew who I am. So, not only is the activity precious, but so is the person I’m with.

In that time, I will pay close attention to him. I will listen, observe, reflect, laugh, maybe flirt and return banter. I will enjoy looking at him, tracing the lines of his face, gazing into his eyes, noticing whether he fancies me. I will relish listening to him and understanding his viewpoint, even if I disagree with and debate it. I will love hearing about his passions, dreams and interests. My time is very precious and if I like him, so is the person I choose to spend it with, even if it’s only that one occasion and even if there is no chemistry.

It’s still a chance to experience novelty and inspiration, new perspectives and ideas. If we have some common humanity, we can share and luxuriate in that. The whole purpose of dating for me is a lovely break from responsibilities, something out of the ordinary, a chance to connect with someone and moreover, a chance to reconnect with myself, to feel alive, a woman in my own right as opposed to a role or a job.

I’ve tended to find, though not exclusively, that younger men are interested in discovering me, my views, my feelings, what makes me tick, who I am, rather than attempting to impress by pontificating about battalions of past achievements. I arrive at a date expecting only this interest. Sometimes things go further, sometimes not. Either way, I’ve had a fun time. Even the awful dates generally have a hilarious side and provide anecdotes to share with friends.

So here’s to dating in the undiscovered country of connecting in the moment! Exciting, isn’t it?

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As Father’s Day drew near, it started me thinking.

For involved dads who are also TBW members, well done! To paraphrase a popular saying: ‘Any dog can reproduce but it takes a real man to raise a child’. I know, as a lone mother, that it’s really tough for a man to give the time to stay in touch and be a meaningful part of children’s lives. Giving time to kids as a separated parent may mean sacrificing what you would ideally like for yourself, at least in the short term. These choices will probably be worth it in the long run, but they inevitably come at some personal cost. So respect to all of you good fathers out there!

For men (and women) who aspire to be parents, but also want age gap relationships, are the two mutually exclusive? Well, yes… and no. I did some research on the emotive and controversial subject of ‘older’ mothers, defined as over the age of 35. What I discovered is intriguing. It all depends on the lady’s age and fertility.

Despite the pressure in society for women to have children in their twenties, recent scientific studies have found that modern fertility in prosperous countries persists for much longer than previously thought, certainly up to age forty and possibly into the mid-forties, although it does decline sharply around this time. The Office for National Statistics produced a data set in 2013 proving that the fastest growing group of mothers in the UK who conceive naturally are over 40, although still a very small percentage of the total. They suggest this is due to increasing fertility and delayed motherhood. I’m part of this trend. I first became a Mum in my forties, along with two of my closest friends. The whole process, from conception to birth, was absolutely natural and straightforward for us all. Boring, I know, but true. I saw my consultant once. He said that if I could become pregnant without medical help, I was ‘low risk’ and he did not want to see me again unless I developed a health problem. I didn’t see him again. My baby was born in under 4 hours and was perfectly healthy. So, for the majority of ladies up to the age of 40, making babies should be perfectly possible.

Menopause for most women doesn’t begin until the late 40s or early 50s, much later than popular myths would have us believe. The process takes around 10 years to complete and so on average, childbearing years are over by the mid-50s. However, although very rare, women in their late forties and fifties have also become pregnant naturally. Within the last 30 years, the oldest woman to conceive naturally in the UK was 54 when she gave birth to a healthy baby! Until a year after a woman’s periods have completely stopped, you are advised to use contraception, unless you want to take the risk of pregnancy.

The statistical data usually quoted around fertility rates (and birth defects in babies) is gained from some questionable sources. Much of it’s gleaned from the population of older ladies being treated in IVF clinics, many of whom had pre-existing difficulties with fertility. This data may not apply to the peer group in general. Also, some of the most often quoted data on ‘problems’ comes from a statistical set gathered in 18^th century France, a questionable comparison when modern women are fortunate to be both healthier and longer-lived. Also, the frightening possibility of birth defects is likely to be at least partially offset by a young, healthy father.

If having your own children naturally is not possible, most IVF clinics now look at the average age of the couple, taking the ages of both parents into account (and this also applies to adoption agencies). With IVF, while there are considerable advantages and disadvantages to consider, having a much younger partner can be enormous mitigation against the disadvantages.

The charge of being ‘selfish’ in having children later in life, cannot be so easily levelled at a couple where the father is young and energetic, even if the mother is much older.

So, actual and aspiring Dads, I wish you all a Happy Fathers’ Day!

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Some people really relish a challenge, don’t they? It’s vitally important to them how others see them and to be bang on-trend. They have to have the latest gadget, music, slang style of speaking, accessory, pet, baby or partner. Whatever the latest ‘A-Z-list’ celebrities do, that’s what they’ll copy. They are like, really sick totes emosh amazeballs!

You know what? I have a deep suspicion that many members of ToyBoy Warehouse are among the super-stylish elite of trend-setters. Why else would anybody actually pay money in these austerity-ridden times to buck deeply held traditional attitudes by actively seeking an older woman-younger man scenario? Surely this is just the latest fashionable lifestyle choice, here today and moving on to the next big thing tomorrow? It can’t be something anyone would do for sincere reasons, can it?

So how do you join the new leaders of this stylish foray into the combination of older lady and younger man and make a real impact? Well, the answer is Compound Trending, a bit like compound investing in the financial sense. This seems to be where you maximise your initial investment and savings by accumulating interest and never taking money out of the pot. For maximum effect going forward, also ensure you ‘verb’ a noun or an adjective and make up a new word! We all know that actionising and reactionising are crucial to the paradigmutational shift of successfulisation in maximal societal impaction, don’t we?

Well, I have some advice for you serious followers of fashion. Don’t get left behind the curve, actionise today! Try something new. Join an exclusive, niche dating site, which caters for this elite group of leaders and will leave the others trailing in your wake. In addition to your over-the-top behaviour and dress code which makes waves, this will help you stand out from the boring norm.

If you want really exciting reactionisation, there are very easy ways to multiply the shock-and-awe factor. Go for a really startling age difference, where she is older than his great-grandmother. Then deliberately pick a partner from a different ethnic group; not speaking a word of the same language is the ultimate impressive. Try forming a couple where the woman is vastly taller or wider -or both- than the man. To be totes unforgettable and for maximal societal impaction, combine all those factors. Finally, to become an undisputed heavyweight trending champion, try majorly snogging in a very crowded place! And there you have it: you’re a super-slick style icon. Others are sure to follow your example, with unquestioning adoration. Compound Trending: Simples!

Taking my tongue out of my cheek though and most importantly of all, most of us, whatever the age difference, simply want to find someone we fancy, who fancies us back and whose company we enjoy… and to be happy together!

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