So you think you may have found Mr. Right…or at least “Mr Right Now”.  It’s sunshine, smiles, snuggles and lots of other things beginning with “s”, all the way…

You like him, he likes you, and the chemistry is so intense it could power the National Grid. Your friends – and even your family – like him and everyone thinks you are the perfect couple…but hang on, before people start ordering hats, what’s this…?

Sudden moodiness…gazing into the middle distance…not quite connecting somehow? What’s going on?  Is there someone else?

Well, there COULD be.

Or maybe there ONCE WAS….

He MAY be carrying a torch for an ex- lover.

SO, how will you know?

Here are the “Five Signs of Fake Fidelity”

1. Online Obsession

He’s online – again. Facebook, Twitter, LinkedIn, you name it, he’s on it, either trying to reconnect or looking for clues to what “She” is doing now. And who with.

2. “Friends With Phones…”

There are calls, emails, texts, maybe reciprocated, maybe not. Either way you lose. If he’s in touch, he’s cheating, or prepared to. If he’s not, he’ll only try harder, because men just love a challenge, even if they know they can’t win…

3. Friends With Benefits

And I don’t mean signing on. If he’s still providing a shoulder to cry on for her from time to time, you can bet your bottom dollar he’s in the market for providing a lot more than that if the chance arises. Don’t accept it. Just. Don’t.

4. He Talks about Her

All the time… If you’re not careful you’ll find yourself  becoming his personal all-hours counselor,  trying to help him get over her, or desperately trying to prove that you’re better than her.  Big mistake. Respect yourself, because if he’s doing this, you can bet he’s got no respect for YOU.  If he’s not grown up enough to move on, immediately pack him a satchel with some sandwiches, a nice shiny apple and a clean hanky and tell him not to come back. Ever.

5. He’s “Just not ready to commit”

What this means is he’s not ready to commit to YOU. If a longstanding relationship isn’t moving on, it’s not going anywhere. If you’re fine with that, that’s fine. If you’re hoping for more and you’re not getting it, it might be time to take a view. And you can always take a view from a nice balcony in a sunny spot overseas, with a bottle of something delicious and a tube of factor ten.

At the end of the day, you deserve to be happy. So does he. But if being happy for him means living in a world that is dominated by memories of his ex while he keeps you dangling, you need to ask yourself, “Do I deserve this?” No, you don’t.

It really is your call…

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Well, maybe a better question to ask might be, “Why Not?”  She’s a Monet, not an Instagram.  She’s a Stradivarius, not an iPod.  She’s an Aston Martin DB5, not a hatchback. She knows exactly who she is and what she wants, and,  if you’re lucky – VERY lucky, she may just want YOU..  But you might have to be patient and join the queue to find a space in her diary, because she’s got a life of her own, plenty of friends, and a whole host of interests that come from having a full, exciting and independent life.

She’s a real woman. She’s a lady, not a girl. And this lady knows how to flirt, she knows how to dress, she knows exactly what sort of man she wants, and she has subtlety, grace and style – no tattoos, tequila, tacky tangerine tans, tantrums, tears or trash here, she’s all woman, and doesn’t need to advertise her appeal.   You want smart?  Oh boy, she’s smart. She’s got stacks of lifeskills and the sort of sophisticated savvy that only comes with experience.  She won’t settle for second best – she not short of offers and she simply doesn’t need to. And you’d better not offer her less than your best if you want to catch her eye! When you are dating a sophisticated older woman,  life suddenly gets more exciting – she has opinions, she’s read books, maybe seen the world, experienced different cultures. She’ll be happy with her image, she’ll take care of her body but she’s way past neurotically obsessing over things, she knows life is for living and having fun, and she knows how to look after herself.  She may have a professional and challenging career, she may have carved a name for herself in her chosen field, but one thing’s for sure, she’ll be at the top of her game sexually, romantically and  emotionally, and she’ll have a style all of her own –  she knows the time has passed to just follow the herd, she’s 100% her own person, and you might just have to up your game if you’d like to be a part of her life…

Add to that her love of fun and adventure, her intoxicating independence, and a spirited refusal to accept the limits that some people accept as well…just…inevitable – and you’ve got a powerful recipe for passion, fun and excitement, and  the perfect partner to explore and embrace all the best things in life.  So, it’s time to ask YOU –  can you handle this much fun?  And are you up for the challenge? Only the best, the brightest, the boldest  – and buffest !  – need apply

This blog was written by Helena, a freelance creative writer, blogger and poet who currently dates a younger man. Check out more of her work on her blog. Published as part of our 30 Blogs in 30 Days campaign.

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