Feminism – Toyboy Warehouse https://toyboywarehouse.com Toyboy and cougar dating Fri, 30 Jan 2026 12:57:53 +0000 en-US hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=5.2.23 Donald Trump: A Woman Dating Over 35? Don’t Even Bother https://toyboywarehouse.com/blog/donald-trump-woman-dating-35-dont-even-bother/ https://toyboywarehouse.com/blog/donald-trump-woman-dating-35-dont-even-bother/#comments Wed, 09 Nov 2016 15:01:04 +0000 https://toyboywarehouse.com/?p=9784 That’s right folks, in the long line of groups of people President-elect Donald Trump has insulted, mature women daters are now an addition. In an interview with radio shock-jock Howard Stern, Donald Trump discussed dating women and how important their age is. In the newly released tape from a 2002 interview, Trump calls 30 ‘a perfect […]

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That’s right folks, in the long line of groups of people President-elect Donald Trump has insulted, mature women daters are now an addition.

In an interview with radio shock-jock Howard Stern, Donald Trump discussed dating women and how important their age is.

In the newly released tape from a 2002 interview, Trump calls 30 ‘a perfect age’.

So, how about 35? The soon-to-be President of the US says, ‘What is it at 35? It’s called check-out time’.

It’s far from the first time Trump has made misogynistic and lewd comments on Howard Stern’s show. In a bizarre 2006 interview, the topic of Trump’s daughter, Ivanka Trump, and her ‘voluptuous’ figure came up. Stern asked Trump if he can call Ivanka “a piece of ass,” to which Trump responds “yeah”.

Other controversial instances on Stern’s show include a 2010 interview where, in reference to Tiger Wood’s affair, Trump rejected the idea people can suffer from ‘sexual addiction’. In a 2005 interview, Trump talked about sleeping with contestants of his beauty pageants when offered, saying’ as the owner of the pageant, it’s your obligation to do that’. He also joked about being allowed in the contestants changing rooms, ‘you see these incredible looking women, and so, I sort of get away with things like that’.

Our thoughts

Toyboy Warehouse has seen thousands of mature women date and have fantastic relationships, is it time we pack up and go home? Is it true that after 35 women can no longer date, that they have to resign themselves with ‘checking out’?

It’s pretty clear to see we have some reservations with the above questions. The sentiment behind Trump’s words isn’t anything new, older women are expected to resign themselves to invisibility, to not be seen when others weigh up their dating options – it’s a pretty awful superpower.

When in actuality this sound be the loudest years of women’s lives, where sexual and relationship freedom means any and all enjoyment can be found.

What’s your thoughts on Trump’s comments?

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My Cougar Confession https://toyboywarehouse.com/blog/my-cougar-confession/ https://toyboywarehouse.com/blog/my-cougar-confession/#respond Thu, 05 Nov 2015 12:00:00 +0000 https://toyboywarehouse.com/?p=2610

In the nine months or so I’ve been on Toyboy Warehouse I’ve told only a handful of friends about it (including my two grown-up kids).  I kind of knew all along what was holding me back, sniffing the possibility of disapproval in the air; the judgement of those who believe I should live by the creed of what they think a […]

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In the nine months or so I’ve been on Toyboy Warehouse I’ve told only a handful of friends about it (including my two grown-up kids).  I kind of knew all along what was holding me back, sniffing the possibility of disapproval in the air; the judgement of those who believe I should live by the creed of what they think a woman of my age should be doing – or not doing!

However, my life began to feel like it was divided in two: those who knew and those who didn’t, and I felt increasingly uncomfortable with that. So I decided to start being more open about it all. Why the hell shouldn’t I tell everyone who answers to the call of ‘friend’ that I’m having a good time with younger men?

But oh … eyebrows raise … mouths gawp open … reactions vary from a genuine ‘that’s fantastic’ to a sharp move away from the subject on to more mundane things. Men, since time began – or since anyone starting counting – have rushed off into a middle-aged sunset and the arms of girls twenty or more years younger than them, often leaving in their wake distressed wives of many years and confused young adult kids. People have always talked about waiting until kids are grown-up before leaving a marriage but statistically, the worst time – the time most likely to topple them into a depression – is when they are between the ages of 18 and 25.

Yet, when Middle-Aged Man does this, although there will be cries of disapproval, there will also be the secret asides of nudge-nudge, wink-wink, ‘I didn’t know old so-and-so had it in him’, and Middle-Aged Man acquires a new and enviable status. His assumed sexual prowess will be celebrated; he’ll become a token of envy amongst his peers (other men of course).  Middle-Aged Woman, however, doesn’t enjoy the same reaction.

Even a middle-aged woman who hasn’t broken up any marriages or upset any kids; told any lies or ruffled any other woman’s feathers – expectations of her are different. We may be in a world of rich and famous cougars hitting the headlines but ‘gorgeous women dating younger men’ hasn’t hit most ordinary lives yet.

I’m hoping this is all a middle-aged, generational thing and society is growing out of this sexist attitude to relationships. After all, does it really matter whether the man or the woman is the elder? And an age gap is just a number of years (‘What’s in a name?’ asked Juliet; ‘What’s in an age?’ ask I) and being with someone and both of you being happy is more about playing by the same rules and having the same expectations than counting numbers.

Someone’s emotional and sexual maturity isn’t by default linked to their age; finding someone sexy, fun and great company isn’t about their age or yours. Sure there are fantasies to be played out – the older woman; the younger man – but in the end this isn’t what necessarily makes a relationship work. So, here am I, going defiantly into a future full of possibilities. Seizing what’s best in the moment and living life to the full – and having fun!  And if anyone has a problem with that, let them not go by the name of ‘friend’.

KatJG

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5 Unforgettable Reasons To Date a Toyboy https://toyboywarehouse.com/blog/5-unforgettable-reasons-date-toyboy/ https://toyboywarehouse.com/blog/5-unforgettable-reasons-date-toyboy/#respond Fri, 12 Sep 2014 17:55:52 +0000 https://toyboywarehouse.com/?p=4760 I have been asked many times “Why do you date younger men?” and still I find the question incredulous! After being married twice and sticking to the conventional path like a Stepford Wife,  I found myself alone! single! and fifty! I was in a very bad place, asking myself over and over, “who would want […]

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I have been asked many times “Why do you date younger men?” and still I find the question incredulous!

After being married twice and sticking to the conventional path like a Stepford Wife,  I found myself

  • alone!
  • single!
  • and fifty!

I was in a very bad place, asking myself over and over, “who would want to date an old second hand bird like me!?”

Enter the “Younger man”: thick of hair, hard of body and with their own teeth and smiling hopefully in my direction.  Thinking at first that they were having a joke at my expense I resisted. But I realised very quickly that they were deadly serious and I was getting older by the minute. So one balmy summer’s evening I succumbed and all the reasons for saying YES to Toyboys became crystal clear. So let me explain why you, too, should date the younger man.:

  1. He looks after his appearance – The younger man looks after himself, dresses well, smells gorgeous and works out! They look just as good out of clothes as in them and have a body confidence that exudes from every pore making them very attractive and exciting.
  2. He gives great… conversation – This is always lively full of plans and ideas. Looking forward and not back (Let’s be honest they haven’t been on the planet long enough to have a murky past!) They are enthusiastic about life and haven’t yet been affected by the downside. They laugh a lot and pause only to tell you how sexy you are! It’s infectious and refreshing.
  3. Affectionate and willing – Once they have gained your interest the younger man will be eager to please and want you to be happy. They are gentle and caring making you feel treasured and cosseted.  There could be a nice foot massage or an offer to cook dinner. Anything you want will be considered. This devotion makes you feel very special!
  4. Attentive yet malleable – Hanging on your every word, telling you how gorgeous you are and going along with whatever you suggest.  You feel totally secure in the knowledge that you are in charge and he will not make demands or have any expectations of what you should do for him.
  5. And – of course – the sex! – I may have left this until last but of course it is always top of my list.. Sex with the younger man is usually and without exception breathtaking, mind-blowing and addictive!. From the seduction to the bedroom, bathroom, kitchen, table, sofa, car, and floor or wherever you let the passion loose you will be setting your sex on fire! Literally. But the best part? Once your passion is spent the chances are it will begin all over again..And again..And again..

There are no guarantees in life and from my experience we are better living in the moment and enjoying life to the full. For me the younger man brings me that joy and reminds me of what’s good about being alive  today, despite my advancing years!

I rest my case!

By Gaynor Evans, TBW member and author of Sex and The Signposts

 

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The Power of the Female Sex https://toyboywarehouse.com/blog/power-female-sex/ https://toyboywarehouse.com/blog/power-female-sex/#respond Wed, 02 Jul 2014 19:13:13 +0000 https://toyboywarehouse.com/?p=4306

The film ‘What Women Want’ has a chauvinist pig electrocuted before being able to understand what women want. There is another, non-lethal way for men to understand what women want (though just as painful for some) and that’s by simply listening to them. True, it helps to enjoy cryptic crossword puzzles, but with a little […]

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The film ‘What Women Want’ has a chauvinist pig electrocuted before being able to understand what women want. There is another, non-lethal way for men to understand what women want (though just as painful for some) and that’s by simply listening to them. True, it helps to enjoy cryptic crossword puzzles, but with a little help, any man can join the dots of a woman’s mind to see the bigger picture.

 

There’s no film called ‘What Men Want’, probably because it would last less than half an hour and would end with the audience rolling over and falling asleep. And [spoiler alert], it’s sex, followed closely by food.

 

Yes, men really are simple creatures driven by their most basic of impulses. If they weren’t, then joining the oldest profession in the world would sound like a stable career move for any woman. Though the fact the profession is still ongoing can be seen as a world still in the grips of Patriarchal power, it also shows how dependent men are on women to get what they want, which more often then not, happens to be women.

 

When the testosterone stop-cock gets turned on, men’s minds are overruled by hormones to believe what they want is sex on tap. Non-stop, 24/7, bop till you drop, sex. Which is fine, if we were in Ancient Greece or Roman times, where orgies were seen as spiritual and important as communion. And what did the Greeks or Romans know about being civilised?

 

As tempting as throwing off all our clothes sounds, if we all gave into our baser urges, civilisation would come grinding to a sweaty, exhausted stop. If we always get what we want, we wont always get what we need. Hormones can be as reliable for controlling our actions as drunk drivers, and we’ve no-one to blame but ourselves when we give them the keys.

 

There is a slew of feminist theory out there for any man willing to understand how women think, and I’d highly recommend it. Sure, a lot of those theories are hate filled bile demanding the burning of phallic effigies and undergarments, but by seeing the world from a different perspective you may end up seeing a lot more of the world than before. Though the ‘Blurred Lines’ Robin Thicke sang of have always been in focus.

 

The average women knows a lot about emotions. They deal with them far more than the average male, and are a lot better at understanding them. The average male tends to be believe emotions are for girls, and any public displays of affection should be behind closed doors, locked, with the curtains drawn. Which is where the power of the female sex truly lies.

 

Men and women are equal opportunity exploiters of their sexuality. Men want sex, women want sex, we can dress ourselves up as civilised as possible, but when the clothes come off, suddenly the greatest faux pas isn’t having your elbows on the table. But getting to that point rests entirely on the woman, and that is why the female sex is more powerful than anything men can do.

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5 Quick Tips For Dating After Divorce https://toyboywarehouse.com/blog/dating-divorce/ https://toyboywarehouse.com/blog/dating-divorce/#respond Tue, 01 Jul 2014 16:07:55 +0000 https://toyboywarehouse.com/?p=4254

The latest reports from the Office of National Statistics shows us 42% of Britons file for divorce. Like most life experiences, they can happen unexpectedly and we are not always mentally and emotionally prepared for what is to come. Some of us, like myself, have a relatively easy divorce, your decree absolute is through the door within […]

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The latest reports from the Office of National Statistics shows us 42% of Britons file for divorce. Like most life experiences, they can happen unexpectedly and we are not always mentally and emotionally prepared for what is to come. Some of us, like myself, have a relatively easy divorce, your decree absolute is through the door within a year and you’re only arguing over the white goods. However thousands of pounds later after, after numerous court visits battling over children, houses and cars you may find yourself somewhat exhausted and distressed.

No divorce is simple unless you’re Britney Spears and it’s annulled  in seventy-two hours.

Every divorce is different. However it is what you choose to do afterwards that really matters.

After all the anger, hatred and bitterness has been laid to rest, you start the process of emergence into the next cycle of your life. It requires you to adjust your thinking about yourself and others and to shed a layer of your ego-filled defenses and let go of anything that stops you being less than who you are. It’s time to explore. It’s time to meet people. It’s time to go out and finally start having some fun.

Start by brushing up on your social skills: if you have been married for a long time, interacting with new people and dating again may seem daunting at first. Joining social networking and online dating sites can be great first place to start. It gives you the opportunity to make new friends and to get dates. Seeing if you share similar views and interests with someone first gives you great grounds for a first date, you will feel more confident and have plenty to talk about.

Plan a few nights out with your friends and stick to them: It gives you something to look forward to and get excited about. At this stage you need all the help and support you can get so you need to stay active within your social circle.

Go get a haircut! You’re not trying to be someone you’re not here, yes, if your daring go for the chop, but a simple cut and even colour can make you feel more confident, polished and ready to go. You will automatically radiate when you feel good about yourself. Same goes for make-up. If your stuck in a rut with the same old blue eyeshadow or pink lipstick go to a make-up counter and ask for looks to suit you and tutorials on how to apply it. You’ve worked on your inner self, it’s time to work on your appearance. The same goes for your wardrobe. Buy a few key items that you can mix up for drinks after work with the girls and for that all important first day. First impressions really do count.

Remember this: When you finally get your chance and you’re making your way to your first date…  keep conversations light and friendly. Do not discuss your previous partners, painful divorce, religion or politics. These are not subjects your date will be interested in hearing.

Last but not least: Do not sleep with your date on the first night, I’m not sure what is worse this, or falling in love after twenty minutes and trying to make it marriage number two!

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10 Signs You’re Dating a Toyboy https://toyboywarehouse.com/blog/10-signs-youre-dating-toyboy/ https://toyboywarehouse.com/blog/10-signs-youre-dating-toyboy/#respond Tue, 24 Jun 2014 00:15:48 +0000 https://toyboywarehouse.com/?p=4142

  Men your own age cease to exist – simply put, the older man has no chance with you! Spoilt by the attention of your toyboy lover, you have no desire to return to the world of wrinkled old guys lacking in both fun and virility. You actually stick to your diet plan – yes, […]

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  1. Men your own age cease to exist – simply put, the older man has no chance with you! Spoilt by the attention of your toyboy lover, you have no desire to return to the world of wrinkled old guys lacking in both fun and virility.
  2. You actually stick to your diet plan – yes, ladies, the scales begin to lose their intimidation factor as you now willingly focus on your diet and stick to it rigidly. You now have a reason to banish those carbs!
  3. Exercise becomes fun – you eat right and you get plenty of bedroom workouts, but now you have a smile on your face and a spring in your step whenever you go to the gym. Hell, even to willingly going to the gym is a major sign that you’re happy again!
  4. You throw out all of your old clothes – who wants to look like a dowdy mum? Or worse still, an old bag lady? All of those clothes that you used to think were trendy are now in black bags waiting the binmen’s morning call.
  5. You now shop for clothes anywhere but M&S – be gone the dreariness of Marks n’ Sparks and the depressing floral barrage that was Principles…now you get your garb in the brightest, statement colours and from wherever you like!
  6. Hair appointments are actually about hair – gone are the days when a visit to get your hair done was the only chance that you had for any form of social communication. Now it is a chance to brag and you find that other women are hanging onto your every word when you’re talking about your new beau. And the hair style is everything so don’t be surprised if you now find yourself experimenting with your look and the best stylists (they’ll even respect you more for this, by the way!).
  7. Toys are no longer taboo – your lust for your younger man could mean the days spent without him may drag a little. But that’s okay as your new best friends will fill the gap, so to speak…
  8. 10:00pm is going out time, not bedtime – you’ll find yourself hitting the town later and staying out longer. Sleep is an inconvenience as you strive to squeeze every bit of joy out of nights out (and in!).
  9. Classic FM and Radio 2 are dead to you now – only the latest tunes can arouse you now and a return to Radio 1 and the local pop stations are all you need to get you pumped for your day. You’ll know exactly who Pharrell and Will I Am are, and probably have all of their back catalogue on the latest iPod by now.
  10. You live your life, and not that of your friends Now you’ve got the courage to go after what you want, and a whole playground of possibilities at Toyboy Warehouse, your days of living by proxy are over with a capital O! They’ll probably be jealous of your success in the dating game as they plod through the monotony of traditional sites…but now you’re a “cougar”, you couldn’t care one little bit, could you?

 

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Ask Wendy: Your Relationship Problems Solved By Our Experts https://toyboywarehouse.com/blog/ask-the-experts-your-relationship-problems-solved-by-us/ https://toyboywarehouse.com/blog/ask-the-experts-your-relationship-problems-solved-by-us/#respond Tue, 17 Jun 2014 19:53:46 +0000 https://toyboywarehouse.com/?p=4207

Sometimes a problem pops up and it’s something you just can’t share with your family and friends. Luckily Toyboy Warehouse are giving you the chance to air your relationship worries – anonymously! – and in return you get some real, intelligent advice from our panel of male and female dating experts. Our experts are notable […]

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Sometimes a problem pops up and it’s something you just can’t share with your family and friends. Luckily Toyboy Warehouse are giving you the chance to air your relationship worries – anonymously! – and in return you get some real, intelligent advice from our panel of male and female dating experts. Our experts are notable faces who you will recognize both from their presence on Toyboy Warehouse and their accomplishments in the world beyond. What they all share is tried and tested experience of what it’s like dating in our niche.

Four of you have already submitted your problems for the attention of the first of our female experts, the beautiful and accomplished Wendy Salisbury. All names have been changed, so don’t try to guess who this may be!

Wendy Salisbury Relationship and Dating Expert for Toyboy Warehouse

To see your questions answered in this space next time, email them to [email protected]


You asked:

I get incredibly nervous before I go on a first-date. I often start stuttering, sometimes I forget to zip my flies and once or twice I’ve even run away before she arrived. How can I have more confidence when meeting an older woman for the first time?    – Tom, 35

Wendy replied:

Hi Tom,

First dates and blind dates can be very daunting because neither of you knows what to expect.  It doesn’t matter how well you’ve got on in cyberspace… one always has more courage shielded by a screen! Physically meeting face-to-face is nerve-wracking for everyone, so you’re not alone there.

Running away is not a good idea because

a) you’ll feel guilty and

b) she’ll think she’s been stood up.  You have to tough it out if you’ve gone to the trouble of making the date in the first place. After all, what’s the worst that can happen?

If you’re not brave enough to keep the date, it’s best to say so beforehand and save her the journey.  You can always rearrange, but you’ll probably only get two shots at it.  If you’re not at the appointed place at the appointed time, your date will give up on you altogether or send you an angry message for having left her standing.  That’s a lose/lose situation whichever way you pitch it!

As for ‘wardrobe malfunctions’, ALWAYS check your flies before leaving home, in the same way that you check that you have your keys and mobile.

Once you have met, the best way to defuse any nerves is to admit to them. Remember, your date may be just as nervous as you. Smile, stand up to greet her if you’re there first and say ‘Hi! I don’t know about you, but I’m really nervous!’

Confidence needs building over time.  It’s perfectly normal to feel insecure in new situations. We’re all insecure about something: our looks, our clothes, our lack of knowledge on certain subjects.  If you get tongue-tied, take a deep breath, drop your shoulders, and pay your date a compliment. Even if it seems banal, say: ‘I like your top/dress/hair/shoes.’  That will break the ice. Then ask her about her day: how was her journey?  Did she come straight from work?

Once the conversation starts to flow, your stutter should abate and your voice should settle down.  The first drink usually helps as well!

Best of Luck!

Wendy x

 


You asked: 

I’ve been messaging someone on Toyboy Warehouse regularly for about three months. He’s charming, easy on the eye (in his photos at least!) and keen to meet up. The only issue is he says he is looking for something serious and while he lives in Edinburgh, I live in London. Can something long-distance work?   – Sarah, 48

Wendy replied: 

Hi Sarah,

I’m afraid that unless you have a regular rendezvous planned – every other weekend or even once a month for instance – long-distance relationships do struggle to survive.  You’re starting with a geographical challenge, although with today’s myriad methods of communication, you can at least keep in touch in many different ways.

You really need to meet first if you’re going to progress this.  The chemistry that may be present in your current contact may fly out the window the minute you set eyes on each other then the problem will no longer exist.  It’s all very well having an ‘imaginary’ boyfriend/girlfriend, but nothing beats the real thing.

Edinburgh is a long way from London so if your guy wants something serious he should probably be looking closer to home.  This may sound harsh but it is realistic.  If he’s hooked on you and it’s feasible to do, either he or you should be prepared to relocate.

So, in the first instance, MEET – even halfway? – and see if you click.  If not, nothing lost.  If so, you’ve got something to build on.

Best of luck!

Wendy x


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Top Tips Going In For The Kiss https://toyboywarehouse.com/blog/top-tips-going-in-for-the-kiss/ https://toyboywarehouse.com/blog/top-tips-going-in-for-the-kiss/#comments Thu, 17 Apr 2014 20:08:36 +0000 https://toyboywarehouse.com/?p=3084

Whether you’re a toyboy dating older women, or a cougar dating younger men, your first kiss with a new partner can be a pretty nerve-wracking time. A kissing disaster can indicate a complete lack of chemistry and an amazing kiss can make your attraction unforgettable. Kissing: it’s good for you. Whether you’re twenty two or […]

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Whether you’re a toyboy dating older women, or a cougar dating younger men, your first kiss with a new partner can be a pretty nerve-wracking time. A kissing disaster can indicate a complete lack of chemistry and an amazing kiss can make your attraction unforgettable.

Kissing: it’s good for you. Whether you’re twenty two or sixty two, a great smooch can make you feel sixteen again. Not only is there the emotional pleasure of a kiss, but it also causes a whole bunch of physiological benefits that aren’t to be sniffed at. Such effects include boosting your immunity, exercising your face muscles which keeps you looking youthful and even burning up to six calories per minute. In terms of technique, tonsil tennis is a sport we can all undoubtedly learn to excel at but for some us it takes just a little more practice and advice.

It’s never easy to judge when the right moment arrives to go in for a kiss with your date. The first meeting can seem too early, yet establishing a physical connection early on is an important part of knowing whether you have more than just friendly chemistry. Michael Cane, author of The Art of Kissing, claims the fairer sex ‘can tell if a relationship is going to work after the first kiss. They just get a feeling, an intuition.’ The first kiss is a key event not only for women as this is undoubtedly the moment for men to position themselves safely outside of the friend zone. You’ve made your first impression, now it’s time to make a lasting impression, and this one requires no words.

Once you’ve decided to make the move, a friendly peck is out of the question. Girls peck their girlfriends, guys peck their mothers… and sometimes even their dogs. Make sure this kiss is extra special and shows your intentions. To do so, remember that kissing starts with the lips but involves the whole mind and body. Pay absolute attention to what you’re doing and that probably means closing your eyes too.

Approaching a first kiss with your mouth wide open is not the best idea. The leering, wet-hoover effect may seem bold and adventurous at the time, but it’s really quite traumatic for the receiving party – trust me, I’ve had that kiss and I still remember it vividly a decade later. Without a doubt, the lips should meet before the tongues do, so try starting with light, gentler kisses and work your way up.

Open mouth kissing is more intimate – and guess what? It makes your teeth cleaner too. A study by the University of Albany exposed the fact that when men open-mouth kiss their partners they transfer libido-boosting testosterone to the person they are kissing. The desired effect is that this will make women more aggressive in uptake. The type of women we have on our site don’t need tips in being forthright and flirty, so don’t expect them not to blow your mind by kissing you first.

Remember kissing is not just lip to lip. When you’re ready, heat things up with a kiss to the neck or below the ear, or even try nibbling on the ears themselves. Sensitive, ticklish areas will leave the skin tingling and the mind wandering. Kiss with your hands too. Try running your fingers up the back of their neck and through their hair.

Once you’ve started, don’t be afraid to take your time enjoying kissing before you move on to the main event. Nothing is as overwhelmingly electric as discovering a new partner. Take your time, enjoy the moment and pucker up! Alternatively, if it’s nothing like it is in the movies and your fun fizzles out straight away then consider giving it a second try. Otherwise, you may have just made a great new friend instead.

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30 Days of Blogs: Our Top 4 Revelations https://toyboywarehouse.com/blog/30-days-of-blogs-our-top-4-revelations/ https://toyboywarehouse.com/blog/30-days-of-blogs-our-top-4-revelations/#respond Sun, 06 Apr 2014 08:56:43 +0000 https://toyboywarehouse.com/?p=2982

30 Days of Blogs culminated yesterday and what an incredible month we have shared through insightful and entertaining blogs. Some of these were informed by scientific fact, and some by tried and tested experience. However, what each shares at the core is a message that challenges the way we view dating. If you didn’t read […]

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30 Days of Blogs culminated yesterday and what an incredible month we have shared through insightful and entertaining blogs. Some of these were informed by scientific fact, and some by tried and tested experience. However, what each shares at the core is a message that challenges the way we view dating. If you didn’t read them all, they will remain on site for your reading (and rereading) pleasure, but here’s our rundown in case you missed the very best bits…

Top 4 awesome insights:

Older women are more sexual

We began with a blog from a member with a long-standing history of providing excellent blogs for our site. This latest piece disproved any ill-informed preconceptions that the older women get, the less interested they are in sex. The facts demonstrate that it is absolutely the opposite, which was in turn reinforced by a very exciting confessional blog on Day 8 that is not to be missed. A woman’s sexuality is certainly shouldn’t be taken for granted however, as our blog on Day 20 will remind you.

Toyboy dating is proof of better gender equality

Knowledge is power, and several of our blogs have been jam-packed with insights into toyboy dating that defy you to remain unchanged. On Days 21326 and 29, we exposed the facts and figures linking women who choose to date younger men. The results show that such women are on the whole better educated and more likely to be leaders than women who date men their own age and older. They are also more beautiful than their predecessors and proof of the fact that the countries they come from have ever improving gender equality.

There’s more to this niche than meets the eye

Older woman younger man dating is something that many people have a prejudged opinion about, often leading people to hide their true desires. Over the last month our bloggers have candidly discussed the real reasons why they date within this niche. We revealed that the variety two partners bring to each other makes toyboy dating so exciting and that lots of men exclusively prefer to date older women. For many, their dating experience is such that the age gap eventually dissolves. We challenged stereotypes, discovering that older women aren’t just intelligent, sexy individuals, they’re also wonderful mothers and role models. The perception of the term ‘cougar‘ is also growing and changing, so our niche will only continue to surprise.

We’re all bloggers

Each of these blogs has the aim of provoking discussion, but one thing that is wholly indisputable is the incredible contribution of our community in making 30 Days of blogs possible. Our bloggers take many varied shapes and sizes with view-points each as valuable and inspiring as each other’s and to all of them we say thank you!  Whether you are a seasoned professional, write for leisure, or have never picked up a pen, Toyboy Warehouse is here to support your voice so get in touch with us if you would like to be involved.

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Cougar, noun 1.North American term for puma. 2. informal, an older woman seeking a sexual relationship with a younger man. Though cougar dating has always existed, it has been said that the term ‘cougar’ when used to mean an older woman sexually pursuing a younger man first occurred as recently as the 1980s in Canada. An […]

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Cougar, noun

1.North American term for puma.

2. informal, an older woman seeking a sexual relationship with a younger man.

Though cougar dating has always existed, it has been said that the term ‘cougar’ when used to mean an older woman sexually pursuing a younger man first occurred as recently as the 1980s in Canada. An ice hockey team named The Vancouver Canucks used the word in order to describe single women that frequented their games in order to have sex with the players. It entered print for the first time in Canada again, in 2001, when the Toronto Sun published an article on cougars. In its common conception, the term now means a woman aged 30+ years who pursues sexual relationships with a man at least eight years younger than she is.

The term then began to disseminate through the US. TV shows such as Sex and the City popularised the word, with characters like Samantha Jones giving a glamorous face to the concept and advocating self-love. Similarly the 2009 show Cougar Town aimed to more openly depict and laugh at older women younger men relationships and has been well-received, though on multiple occasions the show was almost renamed. The word was then runner up in the 2007 US Word of the Year competition. Soon many celebrity women were entering into relationships with younger men. The famously tumultuous relationship between Demi Moore and Ashton Kutcher really brought ‘cougar’ relationships to the forefront of our consciousness. Since then, these have established a solid place in popular culture. Harry Styles’ relationship with Caroline Flack caused a similar stir as he was 14 years her junior.

Whatever positive effect the media has in the treatment of this term, it certainly continues to demonize at times too. A recent UK television show specifically about older woman and younger man dating did nothing to help the perception of women in age gap relationships. It chose only the most eccentric individuals to perpetuate existent negative perceptions and emphasise the unusual nature of this niche. American equivalents such as Extreme Cougar Wives have much the same effect. These offerings aim to shock and offend, turning viewers into spectators laughing at someone else’s unconventional though no less legitimate form of happiness.

Though the size of the media trend exaggerates the amount of ‘cougar’ relationships at the moment and it is unlikely that age gap dating will become the new standard, they are on the rise and a likely consequence is that they will become more accepted. There is a strong chance that in future we will also reclaim the word ‘cougar’ and it will no longer carry such negative connotations. Words like ‘gay’ that were previously used as insults have been ‘reappropriated’ and are now preferred terms to words like ‘homosexual’. Online dating has lost its stigma, niche dating is becoming ever more popular and sooner or later, the term ‘cougar’ will either be neutralised or disappear.

How have you been effected by perceptions of older woman younger man dating? Do you think we’re any closer to changing the connotations of the word ‘cougar’? Have your say in the comments below. Written by Team Toyboy Warehouse and published as part of our 30 Blogs In 30 Days campaign.

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