You’ve met someone exciting. He’s younger, attentive, and makes you feel things you’d quietly filed away as “probably done with those.” Things are going well.

And then you’re sitting there staring at your phone wondering whether to send that message.

Here’s the thing nobody tells you: you’re not overthinking it because you’re insecure. You’re overthinking it because you care, and because every piece of texting advice ever written was designed for someone twenty years younger than you.

So let’s fix that.

Why texting him is a little different

Younger men grew up with their phones as a social lifeline. Texting isn’t formal communication for them, it’s how they flirt, connect, and stay close. That means the rules are looser, the tone is lighter, and a message that would feel casual to him might feel strange to write if you’re used to more considered communication.

That’s not a disadvantage. Once you understand it, it’s actually your biggest opportunity.

The 3 texts that stay in his head

These aren’t scripts. They’re archetypes — the kinds of messages that land differently from everything else in his inbox, because they come from a place of confidence rather than need.

1. The teaser

Something happened in your day that made you think of him — but you’re not going to tell him the whole story. Not yet.

“Something happened today that I think you’d find hilarious. Tell you later.”

That’s it. You don’t explain. You don’t follow up immediately. You let it sit.

Why it works: it creates a tiny, irresistible open loop. He’s now wondering what happened. He wants to know. And without doing anything dramatic, you’ve just made sure he’s thinking about you for the rest of his afternoon.

2. The callback

This one requires you to actually listen — which, let’s be honest, is something you’re probably better at than most women his age.

He mentioned something last week — a work presentation he was nervous about, a restaurant he wanted to try, a film he’d been meaning to watch. You remembered.

“How did that presentation go? I’ve been curious.”

That’s all. Short, warm, specific.

Why it works: younger men are not used to being genuinely listened to by a romantic partner. When someone remembers the small things — not the big declarations, the small things — it feels rare. It is rare. And rare is magnetic.

3. The unpredictable one

This is the message that arrives when he least expects it. Not first thing in the morning, not last thing at night — both of which carry a certain weight — but mid-afternoon on a Wednesday. Something that makes him smile and doesn’t ask anything of him.

“Walked past someone wearing your aftershave. Very inconvenient.”

Or simply: “Today’s been odd. Hope yours is better.”

Why it works: predictability is comfortable but it’s not exciting. When he can’t quite clock your pattern — when you don’t text for two days and then send something that makes his jaw drop — you stay interesting. A woman who still surprises him is a woman he’s still thinking about.

Two traps worth avoiding

The over-explainer. This is the message that starts with a text and ends three paragraphs later. You felt like you needed to provide context. You didn’t want him to misread the tone. By the end of it, the spontaneity is gone and it reads like a memo. Keep it short. Trust him to understand you.

The constant checker. Double texting occasionally is fine. But if you find yourself sending a follow-up before he’s had a chance to reply, or recapping a conversation you already had just to fill silence — stop. The pause is not rejection. The pause is just life. Let it breathe.

The bit that actually matters

Here’s what all three texts have in common: none of them ask for anything. They give — a laugh, a moment of feeling seen, a flicker of excitement — and then they leave space.

That’s not game-playing. That’s confidence. And it’s something that genuinely gets easier the older you get, once you stop mistaking availability for attraction.

You’re not competing with younger women. You’re playing a completely different — and considerably more interesting — game.

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There’s a version of this story that most people assume they already know. Older woman, younger man, she wants to feel desired again, he wants the experience, everyone’s getting something obvious out of the deal. Flattering, maybe. But reductive. And according to the women we spoke to, mostly wrong.

We asked fifty mature women, women in their forties, fifties, and sixties who actively date younger men, what actually draws them in. Not what they’d say at a dinner party. What they actually mean.

The answers were more specific, more considered, and more interesting than the cliché allows for. Here’s what they told us.

It’s not his looks. It’s his energy.

The assumption is that age-gap attraction is fundamentally physical, that a mature woman is drawn to a younger man for the obvious reasons. Youth. Appearance.

But almost none of the women we spoke to led with looks. What came up, again and again, was something harder to photograph but immediately felt: vitality. The sense that someone is fully alive in their own life.

“It’s not about looks. It’s about how he moves through the world. Does he have things he cares about? That’s what I find attractive. Someone who’s still in motion.”

Anonymous, 57

There’s a distinction worth sitting with here. Looks are static. Energy is dynamic. A man who runs, builds things, stays curious, shows up physically present, that registers as something different and more durable than a face or a body type. The women we spoke to weren’t describing a fantasy. They were describing a feeling.

And here’s the part most men don’t expect: that quality isn’t exclusive to twenty-five year olds. It has nothing to do with age at all. It’s about how much of yourself you’re actually bringing.

She’s not looking for serious. She’s looking for light.

By the time a woman is in her forties or fifties, she has usually spent a significant portion of her life being responsible. Careers built. Children raised. Households managed. Relationships that required constant emotional labour. Mortgages.

The assumption, that what she wants now is more of the same, just with a younger face, is one of the more persistent mistakes men make.

“I’ve done serious. I was married for eighteen years. I know what that looks like. What I want now is someone who can make me laugh on a Tuesday. Someone who doesn’t treat every conversation like a meeting.”

Anonymous, 69

What she’s describing isn’t immaturity. It’s relief. There’s a specific kind of ease that a younger man can bring to a dynamic, an absence of the bitterness and heaviness that can accumulate over decades of complicated adult life. Not naivety. Lightness. The ability to be present without the weight of everything that came before.

Playfulness, it turns out, is not a consolation prize. For a lot of the women we spoke to, it’s near the top of the list. The man who can be spontaneous and genuinely fun, without needing everything to be loaded with significance, is rarer than he realises. And far more attractive than he’s been led to believe.

She doesn’t want a performance. She wants a person.

This one came through most clearly of all, and it cuts against almost everything dating culture tends to teach.

The instinct, when a man is interested in an older woman, is often to impress. To demonstrate. To show up with a reservation at somewhere expensive, to talk about what he’s achieved, to perform the version of himself he thinks she wants to see. He assumes, not unreasonably, that a woman with more life experience has a higher bar.

She does. Just not in the way he thinks.

“I can tell within about ten minutes if someone is really listening to me or just waiting for their turn to talk. I’ve sat across from men with impressive jobs and impressive opinions who were completely absent. And I’ve sat across from men who had nothing to prove and just… paid attention. There’s no competition.“

Anonymous, 45

What mature women described, consistently, was the value of presence. Of a man who asks a real question and actually absorbs the answer. Who isn’t performing confidence because he isn’t anxious about whether he has any. Who treats the conversation like it matters because the person across from him does.

That’s not a skill you acquire at a certain age. It’s not a function of what you earn or where you’ve been. It’s a decision, made in the moment, to actually show up. And according to the women we spoke to, most men, of any age, aren’t making it.

The bar, in other words, is not where most men are looking for it.

It isn’t in the restaurant you book or the story you tell or the image you project. It’s in the energy you carry into a room, the lightness you bring to an ordinary evening, and whether the person sitting across from you feels, at the end of it, like they were actually seen.

That’s what they told us. And it’s more available than the assumption suggests.

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When I first joined ToyboyWarehouse.com  ten years ago, I was not only newly single at nearly fifty and bloody terrified,  I didn’t have a clue about dating websites. I decided that as I was not looking for anything too serious and needing to have some fun I would sign up. I liked the sound of TBW having read a write up in a Sunday paper during my dark, ‘getting divorced’ stage. 

I briefly dated a couple of guys in my own age bracket but found them laden with baggage and depressingly predictable. So, with the help of a younger friend, I put up a profile. I have to admit I didn’t look at it again for some weeks, but when I did I was amazed to find I had lots of messages. And so my adventures began…

Now, age gap dating isn’t for everyone! Especially when it’s the woman that is much older than the man. I am sad to say that there is still resistance in society at large to accept that, like any relationship that is created outside what is judged as ‘the norm’, we are entitled to date who we like as we like. Age gaps relationships are still perceived as ridiculous and short term only and eyebrows still get raised higher than the Shard if you get caught in the arms of a much younger man.

Not so of course for the Older Man, parading a gorgeous, much younger woman on his arm. He is applauded for his prowess and patted on the back for his virility and youthful persona. If you take into account that this handsome man wouldn’t even pass the time of day with a woman like me, someone his own age with a past, what options do I have? Do I lower my standards out of desperation or try something new? So I found myself in a world of double standards; confidence at rock bottom; and my husband of eighteen years in the arms of my friend and neighbour…sigh! 

So I asked myself why is there still a stigma attached to age-gap dating? Especially when it’s an older woman that sets her sights on a younger man and vice a versa. Can this be overcome? To a degree I think it already has, as more people make age gap dating their choice. We still have a long way to go, but as long as we don’t waiver the barriers will continue to fall. But I find we still need to be brave and not hide our preferences.

My outspokenness on the subject is well documented and always causes a ripple in the media even now! And I’ve been at it for ten years! For some reason my dating tales still make a story.  I concluded that I must be in a minority? Do other older women feel uncomfortable if their date is younger? I know from experience that most of the dating websites that target the cougar and toyboy market usually have more guys than gals! And I really don’t know why that is.

It is beyond me why more older women don’t sign up. I mean what’s not to like? I have rarely experienced a downside and when I was newly divorced TBW helped me find myself all over again. (Well, their toyboy members did.) I regained not only my confidence – that had been worn away by an unfaithful husband who justified his behaviour by putting me down at every opportunity – but I found a zest for life and a youthful joy that I had forgotten existed.

In the arms of the younger man I experienced tenderness, laughter, joy and the best sex of my life. I was reborn. Reinvented. Rejuvenated. I felt amazed! Alive! and embraced my new life with the gusto of a hurricane.

I don’t advise dating the much younger man if you are hell bent on finding a husband or life partner! If such a thing exists. In my experience if you get ten years out of a relationship it’s an achievement. But some of my relationships, of “sorts”, with much younger men have gone on for years. They don’t take the shape of conventional relationships and you need the patience of a saint, but it’s so exciting and exhilarating. The highs outweigh the lows.

The perception of marriage has changed over the last fifty years. Mating for life used to be the norm but not anymore. Marriage is no more binding than any other relationship. The formality of a legal and public declaration carries no weight at all these days. Divorce is rife and recoupling common. If it doesn’t work we give up. If it becomes too hard we look for comfort elsewhere.

Single people of all ages are being thrown together on dating sites and apps where there is so much choice, it’s like being in possession of an unlimited supply of pick ‘n’ mix. It was always inevitable that there would be dates that crossed cultures and religions, so why not age gaps?

For me dating younger men is the norm and I would just like the rest of the world to gaze upon me and any other couple with an obvious age gap with no more than a passing glance. It’s time to look past the superficial. It is my mission. So come on ladies what you waiting for?

There is always a chance that you can find a solid relationship with a younger man. Look at President Macron and his wife Brigitte. A beacon of light for us all with their successful marriage and an age gap of 24 years! Bravo! 

You may have to kiss a lot of frogs to find yourself a President but, my god, it is so much fun trying!

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If you got hooked first time, get ready for round two. That’s right, your favourite cougar dating site has put together the essential list of romance and dating literature you need in 2019. The following is a culmination of hot romance, gripping stories and lovable characters. We can’t wait to check out these novels and soon, so will you.

Minette Walters

For anyone gripped by The Last Hours, get ready for an epic conclusion to the fantastic series. In the first of the series, (also called ‘The Last Hours’),Walters confidently explored the Medieval romance genre, giving you a concrete sense of time and place. Historical romance differs from traditional romance as it requires an expertly placed sense of space, you need to feel as though you’re actually there. Walters has done this brilliantly with The Last Hours series.

Set in the 1340’s against a backdrop of devastation caused by the Black Death, the novels follow a romantic entanglement that battles against the turmoil around them. Its conclusion, The Turn of Midnight, is set to be a powerful end to the series.

Mandy Baggot

With feel good romance and delicious wit and comedy, Baggot is a rare author that can give you that warm feeling inside. Baggot came to our attention with Truly, Madly, Greekly, a must have for your next Summer holiday. We follow Ellen as she’s pulled between trying to come to terms with her life falling apart and her sister’s chaotic wedding planning. Flying off to Corfu, she only wants to rebuild herself in the Greek sun, that’s until Greece gives her a distraction – the handsome Yan.

Grab your suitcase, we’re making our way back to Corfu with One Last Greek Summer. We’re so excited to see a return of the hot, romantic adventures that we enjoyed so much in Truly, Madly, Greekly. Definitely one to check out.

Kristen Ashley

Ashley has been a firm favourite of our for a while. An author with an incredible range, she’s penned a plethora of standalone novels and exciting series. Ashley is very much a romance author that perks our ears whenever there’s a new novel announcement.

For anyone unfamiliar with Ashley, a great place to start is with the thrill-ride that is the Rock Chick series. As the title suggests, the series hosts a number of kick ass rock chicks who take part in action packed adventures. Sometimes hilarious, sometimes unbelievable, but always hot, the Rock Chick series keeps you gripped never knowing what’s coming next.

Another favourite of ours is The Dream Man series. Just like Rock Chick, the series pulls no punches when it comes to hot bedroom romance. Mixing in Ashley’s skilful use of drama, comedy and character. Quiet Man is the latest in the series and we’re so excited to check this one out.

Samantha Towle

For anyone familiar with Towle’s work, you likely know of her smash hit The Storm series – a romping, fast paced thrillride with rockstar bad boys. Towle came to our attention however with her standalone novel Trouble.

Trouble mixes the bad boy romance we know and love with a difficult backstory, adding a layer of depth to our female protagonist Mia Monroe. Damaged by abusive men in her life, Monroe seeks a way out, but finds it in an unlikely place thanks to the headstrong Jordan Matthews. Trouble is a novel that keeps you gripped by these characters, wanting to uncover more and more of their rich and enveloping backstory. Towle is an author with an incredible insight into character. She is able to build complex and emotionally investing relationships between characters that seem to jump from the page. 

For many, Towle is most well known for her The Storm series. The novels match up to their name, introducing a chaotic whirlwind of romance, emotion and rock and roll. An absolute highlight for us was the ending in 4th in the series, The Storm. Trust me, you need to read it to know what we’re talking about! We’re so excited for Towle’s next book, Finding Storm. Keep updated here.

Denise Grover

Grover is one of the most extensive writers on our list, writing expertly across a wide range of genres. No matter your literary preferences, Grover has a thrilling adventure on hand. For us, we’re in love with the Neely Kate Mystery series.

The books are an offshoot of the Rose Gardner Investigation series, which is an offshoot of the Rose Gardner Mystery series. Don’t worry, this just means there’s a lots of literature to sink your teeth into. The highlight for us has been, Twenty-Eight and a Half Wishes, the first in the series. In it we’re introduced to Rose Gardner, our titular character that’ll follow us on stories across the Investigation and Mystery series. Don’t fret about being bogged down by an overly dark story, Grover successfully winds in humour and wit into a thrilling tale.

The Neely Kate Mystery series follows Kate, who was introduced to us in Rose Gardner’s stories. She was also a character we enjoyed and seeing her with her own series was such a treat. Check out the latest, Dirty Money, now.

Melissa Foster

You may know Foster for her fantastic Love In Bloom series – a set of books that truly exhibit her ability to mix seduction and emotion into a story.

The books touch on big subjects, such as the trials and tribulations of families. It subverts expectation by introducing a number of twists and surprising plotlines that keep you hooked. It also catches you off guard with it’s funny side, causing you to laugh out loud on several occasions.

‘The Bradens & Montgomerys: Pleasant Hill – Oak Falls’ has turned up the sex factor to 11, whilst keeping the fun and easy-reading style of its parent collection Love in Bloom. Be sure to check out the latest in the series – Wild, Crazy Hearts.

J.D. Horn

For anyone not familiar with Horn’s work, it’s an expertly crafted dive into the paranormal and supernatural world. You do need to invest a level of concentration to grasp the winding politics and narrative of the books, but when you do you’re rewarded with an intense sense of investment.

Despite the otherworldly nature of Horn’s work, especially The Witches of New Orleans series, you never feel detracted from the story. While it conjures the fantastical, you always stay grounded thanks to the great depth Horn builds for his characters.

The Witches of New Orleans kicked off with The King of Bones and Ashes, and was followed up by a favourite of ours The Book of the Unwinding. The third in the series, The Final Days of Magic, sets to continue Alice Marin’s story. Definitely one to check out.

Anna Jacobs

Lancashire born Jacob’s is a firm favourite from our list. For anyone who’s a fan of historical stories of love and romance, Jacob’s is a heart-warming must read author.

Jacob’s came to our attention with the Rivershaw Saga. The books follow the lives of a number of characters trying to rebuild their lives during post World War 2. Everything from the small and seemingly mundane, such as rationing, to the weighty emotional chaos many of the characters face, all culminate into an expertly written set of stories. Jacobs explores the darkest aspects of relationships just as much as the positive sides, painting no relationship as perfect and mess-free.

Alongside the Rivershaw Saga, other series to check out include the Kershaw Sister Series, The Swan River Saga and, the eagerly anticipated new Birch End Series.

K. Bromberg

Bromberg has a host of fantastic books that show off the best in erotic literature, definitely a go-to for us when we’re after a steamy literature session.

It would be difficult to list here all of highlights, but some top contenders include;

• The Driven Series. This series was one of the reasons our attention was peaked by Bromberg, if you haven’t checked it out, what are you doing?! The story follows Colton, a high-flying casanova, and Rylee, a young woman rebuilding her life after a difficult past. With fully developed characters that are difficult not to relate to, you root for their relationship to develop, despite an ever-present dark history looming.
• Everyday Heroes Series. Bromberg has an ability to mix passionate and seduction with a thoroughly emotional story, one that keeps you invested. The Everyday Heroes Series is no exception, with one of the most favourite central characters we’ve had with Emerson/Emmy.

We’re so excited for Bromberg’s latest series Wicked Ways, be sure to check it out on launch day.

Kristen Proby

You may have heard of Proby from the fantastic With Me in Seattle series, most notably the explosive start to the series with Come Away With Me.

Come Away With Me has been a firm favourite for us, definitely a go-to for a hot, sexual story that holds no bars. The central couple don’t hit it off at first. Luke accuses Natalie, a professional photographer, of being paparazzi even though she has no idea who he is. But that introduction doesn’t stop a sensual romance developing.

The With Me in Seattle series continues to go from strength to strength, with Fight With Me, possibly one of the hottest male leads we’ve seen in a while, and Play With Me, which cements this series as one that follows men who know what they want, and they’re not going to stop until they’ve got it.

The Romancing Manhattan series started with the fantastic All the Way and we’re eagerly anticipating the second in the series; All it Takes

Sabrina Jeffries

Jeffries work mixes the historical world of lords and ladies, royalty and family, with a seductive central relationship. Out of the many historical romance authors, Jeffries’ work towers with its uncanny ability to build worlds. Necessary for any successful historical romance story is a tactile settings, one that you can close your eyes and imagine enveloping you. Jeffires work does just that, with the most notable being The Hellions of Halstead Hall series, a firm favourite of ours.

We’re super excited for Project Duchess, which seems to be echoing many of the same themes of The Hellions of Halstead Hall, a dark secret past and reluctance to see that what is in front of you. Be sure to check out Project Duchess.

Devney Perry

We first had our interest peaked by Perry with the fantastic Jamison Valley series, especially its introduction and Perry’s debut, The Coppersmith Farmhouse. Despite being a debut, this story shows an author who understands the craft and knows how to write characters. Even after finishing The Coppersmith Farmhouse, it had us yearning to return to the sweet central romance. Despite their rocky start, it’s a relationship that had us bursting with joy.

We thoroughly enjoyed the first in Perry’s other series, the Maysen Jar. Again Perry makes it so you can’t help but fall in love with the main romance. A story full of love and emotion bursting from the pages. That’s why we’re super excited for book 2, Letters to Molly.

Jennifer Probst

Where do we start with Probst? If you’re short on time and can only read one series this year, firstly, you need to find more spare time?! Secondly, the Marriage to a Billionaire series may be a perfect option. It’s definitely our favourite from Probst.

The first in the series, The Marriage Bargain, is a story we’ve seen before but done in an interesting way. Billionaire Nicholas Ryan needs to find someone to marry to keep his wealthy status. He offers Alexa McKenzie an interesting ‘proposal’ – a fake marriage. As you can imagine, things don’t go to plan.

Probst is an accomplished author and by reading her work, you can see that very clearly. She has a writing style that exudes confidence, seductive without being smutty, sweet without being soppy. Marriage to a Billionaire is an explosive, hot series, and it’s only the tip of the iceberg of Probst’s work.

The Stay series keeps this confident writing style whilst adding heaps of sweet and heartwarming story. This series has been thoroughly entertaining and we can’t wait for the next in the series, All Roads Lead to You.

Jay Crownover

If you haven’t heard of Crownover’s work before, you’re missing out an author of unabashed, tantalising literature. Crownover’s extensive back catalogue of hot romance and even hotter male leads is a treat for any reader. Our standout favourites include:

• Downfall, and not just for the cover! Downfall is a standalone series that follows Solo and Orly as they explore a blossoming romance, all whilst Orly’s dark past threatens all she cares about.
• The Marked Men series. Definitely a favourite of ours because it doesn’t just settle for an erotic story. Don’t get us wrong, it’s got eroticism by the bucket load, however Crownover doesn’t let that be the only jewel in her crown. Each story’s ending sticks with you well after it’s finished, displaying a level of emotion and authenticity that’s sometimes rare to see in the genre.

Crownover’s latest book Justified (Loveless) will be released June 25, 2019 and we can’t wait!

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Cheers, all around-it’s date night! Time for your personality to shine, and to make your date see through your clothing that you are the most brilliant woman he has ever laid eyes upon. Let’s take a look at some stylish and fun date outfit ideas, and also talk about what to stay away from.

Things You Should Do

Even if you have the confidence to wear almost everything on your date — you should take time when deciding what suits you the best. We are talking about the basics: what to wear to ensure that you leave a good impression and have a great time, every time!

• Stick with what makes you happy. You want to be focused on your date, not tugging at your shirt all night.
• Wear what you know you look great in. Part of being mature is knowing what works for us. Wear what looks cute and feels right.
• Make sure you consider the location of your date. We would not want your feet to hurt wearing heels to a carnival, neither do we want tennis shoes at the theatre.
• The basics are king. A black swing dress, jean jacket, black flats, and a simple silver necklace are something women of all shapes, sizes and height can wear with no worries. So, build on the basics – add the flair later.
• Simple things for a confidence boost. If you want to feel your best on your date, you can always do a few simple things that will help you to boost your confidence — things like a new haircut or fun new accessories that will help you to stand out. And you can always check for some great discounts. Fiorelli has some particularly adorable jewellery, with excellent discount codes, that we cannot wait to rock on our next dates.

What You Should Try to Avoid

• Dressing “smartly” on the first date. You are a smart lady, but there is no need to dress like you are interviewing for a job. This may leave the impression that you are too serious or that you don’t want to get closer with the other person. Besides, you can save that perfect outfit for an important formal event!

• Anything you have troubles in. By troubles, we mean anything you are uncomfortable breathing, eating, or walking in. If you bend over and your bum shows, shelve it and try something else. Dates are about fun after all so don’t let anything distract you from enjoying your time.

How to Dress for the Date

Of course, dressing for the date always depends on where you are going. You wouldn’t wear a dress and heels to a football game, and you would not wear ripped dungarees to a fancy dinner. You can try these simple outfit ideas depending on where your date is taking you.

Sports Match: White Jeans & Cute Top

From a sports match to a casual walk in the park, this outfit will make you feel comfortable and look ready for anything. A pair of straight-leg white pants (yeas, white) paired with a simple and long tunic or short sleeve polo shirt is perfect for giving you that fun and sporty look. Just add your favourite flats, and you are ready for your casual date. This outfit will also leave the impression that you are easy going and cheerful person.

Casual Dining: Midi Skirt & Denim Jacket

Your favourite jean jacket for chilly mornings gets a fun twist with this idea. Dress up that piece with a structured skirt and your favourite nude heels. You can even wear this to the office and look put together as you effortlessly go from work to your date.

Fine Dining: Dressy Jumpsuit & Elegant Clutch

Jumpsuits are all the rage right now, and you can rock this look easily. Try a plain black jumpsuit, neutral heels and an upscale clutch by your favourite designer to make your date drool over more than just the meal.

Rock Concert: Feminine Dress & Leather Jacket

Show him you can be cute and tough when you put your favourite dress under a leather jacket. Or, wear your pretty dress with some Doc Martens in black to play up the look. Some bright red lipstick and everyone will know who’s boss.

We can’t wait to hear about how your date went once you get back…but even more exciting is the cute selfies you’re going to be taking all night because of how good you look. 

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That’s right, your favourite cougar dating site has pulled together the ultimate list of dating and romance literature you need to check out in 2019. We just can’t wait for these soon-to-be-released works of dating advice, steamy erotic novels, fantastic romance comedies and more. Don’t you dare go on another date until you’ve checked out our list, your next relationship will thank you for it!

William’s latest book is described an ’emotional and unflinchingly honest memoir of coming out of the closet late in life, owning up to the past, and facing the future’. His previous work is what drew our to attention to William. ‘Fashionably Late: Gay, Bi & Trans Men Who Came Out Later in Life’ deals with a similar topic, looking at the trials and tribulations not only of coming out – but doing so as a mature man. Not pulling any punches everything from gay conversion therapy to the difficult divorce are touched upon in the book.

Fashionably Late was an honest and authentic look at the feelings of a range of individuals, going through a difficult life transition. ‘The Lie: A Memoir of Two Marriages, Catfishing & Coming Out’ is set to be another in genuine look into a difficult topic, this time with a heightened sense of drama and a central narrative that we’re anticipating is just as page turning as William’s last book.

Travis’ back catalogue of work is as extensive as it is uplifting. Travis’ aim is to share happiness and goodwill through his books and the ‘Optimism Program’; a program described as ‘helping optimists change the world’. Read any of Travis’ work and you can see how optimism is his leading ideal, from ’52 Questions For A Happy Friendship’ to ‘Leading Happiness’.

Travis’ latest work is tackling the issues of dating and relationships, helping to ‘develop better communication skills and a more satisfying love life’ just by asking questions. It’s set to be an essential for any couple looking to grow and develop their relationship in a fun way and we’re super excited to get a copy when it’s released.

‘I Just Haven’t Met You Yet: Finding Self-Empowerment in Dating, Love, and Life’, no it’s not an incorrect guess for the second line in that famous song, instead it’s the soon to-be-released work by author Tracy Strauss.

Tracy gained our attention back in 2014 during her appearance on the The Steve Harvey Show. Her dating insights have been shared on a number of high-profile online blogs (Huffington Post, Glamour). So you can imagine our excitement when we heard she was writing a book. Her other writing has featured in a range of scholarly publications, and after reading you can see why. With a insightful and intelligent tone, Tracey’s soon to-be-released ‘I Just Haven’t Met You Yet’ is set to be a must read.

If you’re looking for a steamy night with a must read book, Tessa Bailey has always been a go-to for us. With an extensive back catalogue of work, you’re going to be happy we introduced you to this fantastic author.

Exciting and sexy, Tessa’s work is a treat for the eyes. The stand out series for most of our members have been the Line of Duty Series; a 5 book series following hot cops and ever hotter writing.

So why has ‘Fix Her Up’ caught our eye, ladies and gentlemen, it’s a romantic comedy. We’re so excited to see how Tessa transitions her fantastic writing to another genre! We’re expecting a whole heap of laughs alongside our usual dose of love and romance.

We’re big fans of the Instagram account @awardsforgoodboys, so imagine our surprise when we heard it’s unique yet insightful brand of humour was making it to a book. The account has a keen eye on our current dating and gender culture. With such a low bar for men to be considered ‘good boys’, when basic human decency is lauded as chivalry, what impact does that have on our day to day lives.

As a dating site, we see the full range of dating etiquette, from the honest to the sub-standard. Awards For Good Boys has a perfect and hilarious insight into the poorer parts of our relationship culture and we’re so excited to read Shelby’s latest release.

Shannon Boodram has been a frequent face in the dating world, offering her unique insight across a range of high profile TV shows, publications and her YouTube channel. Her first book ‘Laid: Young People’s Experiences with Sex in an Easy-Access Culture’, was an insightful look into the open sex culture of today. With direct accounts from a number of individuals, plus Shannon’s usual dating intelligence, ‘Laid’ was a fantastic debut book.

Her next book however is one that’s got us super excited. Ladies, it looks set to be a must-read! A self-described how-t0-guide, Shannon aims to teach us self-confidence and self-discovery, all to gain control of our dating lives and get exactly what we’re looking for. Shannon’s previous insights have been so fantastic, that this book is set to be our must-read as soon as it’s out.

Dating in our modern connected times; it’s safe to say we take it for granted. With our online dating world being such a new phenomenon, this opens the door to completed different dating experiences – whether they be good or bad. There’s been quite a lot of novels about this, Virtually Yours by Sarvenaz Tash is set to be a fantastic addition to the genre.

While geared towards children and teens, many of our members really love Sarvenaz work. Her previous novel, ‘The Geek’s Guide to Unrequited Love’, was a hilarious yet touching story of that heart fluttering kind of love and the pursuit to get the girl of your dreams. Obviously, as a dating site we love when topics on online dating get explored. Mix this with the delightful writing we’ve seen from Sarvenaz, Virtually Yours is set to be a must read on launch day.

If this was a list of the best titled book, ‘The Coitus Chronicles: My Quest for Sex, Love, and Orgasms’ would still make the list. Funny girl and down-right fantastic author, Olive Persimmon latest work is set to be even better than ‘Unintentionally Celibate’, a book many of our members absolutely loved.

Olive Persimmon has been detailing her revelations about dating, love and sex all with a sharp humour for years. ‘Unintentionally Celibate’ explores an experience many of us may have shared. Put down the steamy erotic novels, this is a delightful look at what’s it like to never enter the kingdom of orgasm.

And the quest continues in ‘The Coitus Chronicles’. If this latest release is as funny, touching and genuinely real as ‘Unintentionally Celibate’, then we’re set for a fantastic second book.

To summarise Madison’s work? Unashamed fun and blush-inducing sexiness. Natasha Madison has been a firm favourite of ours for quite a while, with her latest series ‘Hollywood Royalty’ being a continuation of her saucy and entertaining writing style.

For anyone who wants a brilliant introduction to Madison, check out the ‘Tempt Series’. The first book follows Austin and Lauren, boss and assistant who’s sexual attraction for each other is difficult to ignore. Instead of doing what HR probably would advise, they find themselves in a number of hilarious situations. A novel that expertly blends sexy and comedy. The second in the series, ‘Tempt The Playboy’ plays out alongside the first, focussing on Noah and Kaleigh – a unashamed womaniser and a hardened-to-love, confident woman. If you love sexy banter, this is one series to check out.

The ‘Hollywood Royalty’ series has been fantastic. Transporting Madison’s signature sexy writing to the world of Hollywood and the movies. The third in the series ‘Hollywood Prince’ makes our list as one of the most eagerly anticipated romance and erotic literature of 2019.

We absolutely loved Herkness’ Wager of the Heart series. Each follows a handsome, rich protagonist harbouring a difficult truth – most notably a lack of real love. Each of these rugged men, struggle to find someone to love who’s not just there for their money. That’s until a lovable, hard-working love interest crashes into their life. Each story has you rooting for a happy ever after, bringing a level of charm into what is a very sexy story.

Herkness’ latest series ‘Second Glances’ is another equally enjoyable instance of the ‘exotic billionaire hunk – antithetical yet gorgeous love interest’ storyline. ‘Second Time Around’ was a sexy, explosion into a new series and we can’t wait for the follow-up – ‘Second Act’.

With blossoming romances and an undercurrent of action and drama, the ‘Sapphire Bay’ series has got us gripped and we can’t wait for the next in the series; ‘Before Today’.

For anyone who hasn’t read any of the ‘Sapphire Bay’ series yet (or any of Morgan’s other brilliant series, most notably ‘Emerald Lake Billionaires’ and ‘The Montana Brides’), you need to fix that sharpish. ‘Falling for You’, the series’ introduction, is still our firm favourite. Following Natalie Armstrong and Gabe Lanigan, a developing relationship keeps you invested while an ever-lurking danger keeps you tense and desperate to know what happens next.

‘Before Today’ introduces a rugged yet lovable male protagonist in Levi Montgomery, set to turn Brooke Johnson’s simple life in Sapphire Bay upside down. Check this out on release date.

It’s no surprise that romance novels that delve into the world of modern dating and online dating are extra intriguing for us – and we’re super excited for this author to take the helm. ‘The Magnolia Chronicles: Adventures in Modern Dating’ is set to be a witty tale of embarrassment and compassion.

Our interest in Canterbary peaked on a very different series however, The Walsh Series. A series that follows a string of masculine rebels and damaged heartthrobs. Full of wild eroticism and headstrong characters, the 8 part series is definitely one to check out. We can’t wait to see Canterbary’s writing style become even more flexible, introducing comedy, satire and a biting account of modern dating.

Albert first came up on our radar with the Out of Uniform series, following the love affairs of men in the military – and boy, do we love a military storyline! Albert’s work really shines through thanks to its focus on character. We spend a great deal of time establishing the relationship between the love interests, we see them bonding and growing together. All of which makes the eroticism all the more captivating. Wheels Up, has to be our favourite which layers on an extra dollop of emotion to the story.

Albert’s latest series ‘Frozen Hearts’ is set to start with ‘Arctic Sun’ – a tale ‘opposites-attract romance between a rugged outdoorsman and a smoking hot former male model’. We’re super excited to check it out and that’s why it’s made our list!

Nandini Bajpai weaves exciting depictions of Indian culture and facets of relationships anyone can relate to in her previous work. From ‘Red Turban White Horse: My Sister’s Hurricane Wedding’; a thoroughly enjoyable page turner to ‘Starcursed’; an exciting novel of history, romance and drama, Nandini’s work has been a favourite for a number of our members.

Nandini latest novel ‘A Match Made in Mehendi’ takes us straight into high school, for what’s set to be a story of embarrassing first loves and the social jungle that is teen life. The story looks to bring in the same themes of tradition and culture present in her other works, which make such enthralling books to read.

Yes! A follow up to ‘One Man Guy’. That’s exactly what we thought when we heard of Michael Barakiva’s latest release ‘Hold My Hand’.

‘One Man Guy’ is a brilliant depiction of adolescent love and discovery centred around two growing young boys. With a tone that’s sweet and endearing, ‘One Man Guy’ is a difficult book to put down. Following the story of Alek and Ethan, very few stories successfully engross you in the characters’ story so well that you feel alongside with them. Whether that be the highs of love or the lows of heartbreak.

After such a powerful debut novel, we have big expectations for ‘Hold My Hand’. We’re so thrilled we get to continue the story of two enchanting characters.

Mary Ann Marlowe first novel ‘Some Kind of Magic’ was a fantastic debut. Biochemist Eden Sinclair meets international rock star Adam Copeland, for a central relationship that’s electric and sexy. Marlowe’s writing style never bores, she keeps you on your toes in this fast, flirty novel.

And it’s for this reason we’re extremely excited for Marlowe’s latest work, ‘Dating by the Book’. No, it’s not an alternative to ‘Dating for Dummies’. ‘Dating by the Book’ introduces us to ‘writer and bookstore owner Maddie Hanson’ as she embarks on a journey of love and romantic celebration. Not settling for one love interest, ‘Dating by the Book’ our protagonist whirlwind dating life meets ‘a smoldering rock musician, the bookish college professor… even a Silver Fox’. If ‘Dating by the Book’ has the same flirty, vivaciousness of  ‘Some Kind of Magic’, then we’re in for a treat.

Leslie Morgan Steiner 2009 hit ‘Crazy Love’ was a raw and authentic memoir of surviving domestic violence. While difficult to read a certain points, its powerful writing style made for an excellent read. This book and her subsequent media appearances have helped inspire confidence, strength and leadership for many women.

We’re so excited for ‘The Naked Truth’ as it details a story many of our members have experienced, the desire to rid themselves of the shackles of the lonely, middle-aged divorcee cliché. With a confident and unashamed attitude, Leslie accounts her search for sexual and romantic satisfaction. We’re hoping for Leslie’s traditional unfiltered writing style that really explores what it’s like to date and find love at a confident, mature woman.

Lauren Morrill has been a firm favourite for many of our members, her comforting writing style makes her work a pleasure to read. A really gem of ‘swoon romance’, Lauren’s novels are a delightful must read.

‘Better Than the Best Plan’ seems set on continuing that tradition. Not the first time Lauren’s tackled the idea of ‘first love’ (check out ‘Being Sloane Jacobs’ which mixes young love with delightful and funny body swap antics), ‘Better Than the Best Plan’ tells the story of Ritzy as she’s taken back to foster care – however are things really as bad as they seem? Definitely one for our list of eagerly anticipated dating books.

Get ready ladies, it’s another set of steamy erotic literature; and for us, Kate Meader is a firm favourite. This may be cheating, but Kate’s on our list twice – for the next two books in the ‘Laws of Attraction’ series (Illegally Yours and Then Came You). We’ve cooked up some romance in the ‘Hot in the Kitchen’ series, we’ve swooned for sexy firemen in the ‘Hot in Chicago’ series. Now get ready for some steamy lawyer action in the ‘Laws of Attraction’ series (Are you pro-bono or just happy to see me?).

With a sharp sexy writing style and a love of dramatic, Kate Meader’s work has always been a firm favourite of ours. The first in the series; ‘Down with Love’, was a fantastic introduction into this world of romance and law. Where the courtroom isn’t the only place for the action. Definitely one to check out.

Get ready ladies, it’s about to get steamy. Evie Claire is back with what’s set to be a hot return to form with ‘Let’s Talk About Sext’. The last work from Evie Claire was all the back in 2016, with the ‘Hollywood Hot Mess’ series – a two book series I really loved and so did many of our members.

‘Hollywood Hot Mess’ did away with romance novel boredom. Yes, the action was definitely a high point but unlike many others in the genre, it wasn’t the only thing on offer. With a twisting and ever increasingly surprising story, the ‘Hollywood Hot Mess’ series was a fantastic debut. We’re so excited Evie is back with a new two part series and we eagerly anticipating was set to be a fantastic read.

David Yoon’s debut novel makes our list of most for the most eagerly anticipated romance and dating literature of 2019. The novel promises a coming-of-age story that tackles ethnicity, love and what it means to understand yourself. Already receiving rave reviews and even being optioned to be a film by Paramount, this debut novel is set to be a explosive introduction on the scene. We can’t wait!

Just by reading We Are the Perfect Girl’s synopsis, we’re getting excited for what’s set to be a hilarious and endearing story of friendship and cute boy crushes, and there’s very few authors better to tell the story than Ariel Kaplan. Friends Aphra and Bethany fall for the handsome Greg and embark on an elaborate story of disguise and deceit. ‘What begins as an honest mistake turns into an elaborate deception, wherein Bethany goes on dates with Greg while Aphra coaches her on what to say, and texts him in the guise of Bethany, trying and failing, all the while, to tamp down her own hopeless crush. It’s only a matter of time before things come crashing down. ‘

Kaplin’s previous work is full of sharp wit and heart-filled stories. A strong voice in the young adult fiction genre, this latest work is set to be a fantastic read.

‘Sex and the Enneagram’ is the latest work by Ann Gadd and definitely something we have a peak curious interest in reading. For many of our members, understanding our attitudes towards sex and relationships has been something long pondered; how do these attitudes change when we put through the model of ‘the Enneagram’ – a 9 personality type teaching.

Gadd’s previous work has enlightened us on many aspects of our lives, from income to self-confidence. Gadd has previously discussed relationships a number of times and we hoping ‘Sex and the Enneagram’ again brings that sharp insight Gadd is known for. Definitely one to check out if you’re looking to better understand yourself and you relationships.

Alisha Rai’s work has been a firm favourite for many of our members, a her latest work is set to bring her steamy and explosive writing style to a topic we know particularly well – online dating.

If erotic literature is your thing, Alisha Rai has been a powerhouse in the genre for a number of years. With a seductive way of words, deep and engaging characters and a sensual story, Rai is definitely one to check out. We’re super excited for ‘The Right Swipe: A Novel’ which firmly places her work in the modern dating world we live in.

Mary Calmes first came to our attention with the brilliant Marshal series. Following Miro Jones a, you guessed it, US Marshal trying to understand new feelings for his antithesis – Ian Doyle. His evolving love affair goes far from smoothly, not at all helped by his action-filled, dangerous career.

We love when a series follows one couple and the 4 part Marshall series did so with two protagonists you can’t help but fall for. Despite their differences and the explosive aspects of their relationship, you continue to root for a happy ending from book to book.

The new series Torus Intercession (which just sounds so cool!) starts with No Quick Fix which from the opening line of the blurb is set to be an interesting adventure ‘A retired SEAL is about to face his toughest assignment yet. As a nanny…’. We’re looking forward to checking out Mary Calmes new book as it’s set to blend an enveloping romantic relationship against a thrilling, action-packed backdrop.

For us, the Alien Outlaws series is one that took us by surprise. It’s so hard to write erotic fiction and mix it well with sci-fi, but Escape from Ixilta (the first in the Aliens Outlaws series) did exactly that!

The plot follows Andie Munster as she meets the handsome Xandr and embarks on a chaotic, romantic love affair – and did we mention Xandr is a gorgeous purple alien. Sci-fi and erotic fiction are the hardest to mix well, but Rudolph did a fantastic job with this short yet punchy introduction to the series.

Rudolph has a number of similar series (Detyen Warriors series, Mated to the Alien series) that we definitely going to be checking out. But before then, we can’t wait for the next in the Alien Outlaws series – Rogue Alien’s Woman.

Where do we start with Nana Malone? If you’re looking for sharp wit and no holds barred sexy stories, you’ve come to the right woman.

It would take us a while to pick which of Nana Malone seductive novels are our favourite, but for us the one that first drew our attention to her was ‘The Shameless Trilogy’. Get ready ladies, you’re in for a treat here.

The series follows Noah Blake, a masculine, specimen of a man that jumps from the page. With a shrouded past and dark secrets, this is one character that invites curiosity and attraction in equal measure. With some of the best twists and reveals we’ve read, for us this was an explosive introduction to Malone’s work.

Mixing royalty and heart pounding eroticism isn’t new for Malone (you need to check out Royals United and Royals Undercover) and her latest series The Heiress Duet is set to be a return to the steamy topic. Protecting the Heiress is released March, 19. It’s definitely one to pre-order now!

Sasha’s previous book came to our attention for its pick of setting, the idyllic Cotswolds. Reading A Country Scandal it’s clear to see this wasn’t just a random choice of location, but it fits perfectly with the sweet, honest story. Building a relationship is one thing, but successfully painting a wonderful setting turns a novel from a good read to one that you’re enveloped within.

We follow Tobias Cavendish-Blake as he inherits not only a large stately home, but the responsibility of dealing with its impending money problems. He’s not alone however, as he’s eventually helped by Megan Taylor, a powerfully compassionate woman who you can’t help but also fall in love with.

A Country Rivalry is set to introduce even more drama into the series. We can’t wait to see what happens next to Megan and Tobias, and for that reason it’s made our list.

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Toyboy Warehouse isn’t just the UK’s largest cougar dating site, after inhouse dating experts are world renowned for their insight. That’s why we’ve uncovered the most essential books, podcasts, video series, etc. on all things dating. Whether you’re newly single, someone making the most of their bachelor/bachelorette life or a lucky so-and-so settling in to another relationship, these are the most essential books and podcasts you need to be checking out.

Is there something we’ve missed off the list? Let us know in the comments.

April Kirkwood, Working My Way Back To Me

For rural Ohio beauty queen April Kirkwood, her #MeToo moment came way before the term was coined. She lost her virginity to the middle-aged Frankie Valli at 16, after a decade pursuing a childhood fantasy to be the crooner’s wife. Through April’s eyes, we experience joys and heartaches that echo across more than a half-century of old family secrets and ways, and the triumphs and defeats involved in trying to break the mould. The book sheds light on universal struggles involving love, sexuality, addiction, and mental health. April’s adventures lead to betrayal and suffering, and her fate depends on family. April must learn the fine line between guidance and sabotage as she claws her way to a future not as a saviour, but as a fiercely accomplished woman.

Check out Working My Way Back To Me

The Couples Counsel by Dr. & Mrs. Mercier

Relationships don’t always go the way we hoped and often include poor communication, money fights, and lack of sex & intimacy. Dr. & Mrs. Mercier believe the challenges in relationships are opportunities for growth. That is why they have made it their purpose to equip couples and families with the necessary tools for happy and healthy relationships.

Check out The Couples Counsel

Maria Leonard Olsen, 50 After 50

When lawyer/journalist Olsen reached age 50, she decided to try 50 new things that were significant to her. As a woman in recovery, the author values the time she has left, and through her own story, urges readers to do the same via activities such as singing like no one’s listening, riding a horse, and performing random acts of kindness. She enumerates many more exercises under the headings of “spiritual endeavours,” “thrill seeking ventures,” “lifestyle changes,” and so forth, but the message is that we should value and embrace life to the fullest. VERDICT An inspiring read for those who are in or have passed through middle age.

Check out 50 After 50

Diana Raab, Lust

A passionate journey through private emotional moments, Diana Raab’s Lust voices the pain of loneliness and the heart’s yearning for love while transcending the depths of human desire. In her fourth book of poetry, Raab employs narrative verse that is alive, titillating, and seductive. Lust examines the emotional and physical complexity of love, helping readers navigate the risks of intimacy as we move toward the realisation that every experience enriches our lives, whether we perceive it as joy, pain, or out of the ordinary. Yet for all their psychological richness, the poems’s simplicity and accessibility will resonate with women and men across all walks of life. Lust is a book you won’t put down and won’t soon forget.

Check out Lust

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New to the dating game? Unsure of the signals you should watch for?

We know that plucking up the courage to ask her out can be a nerve-wrecking experience, but it doesn’t have to be – as Gaynor tells us, in the latest edition of our Ask Gaynor series.

From figuring out if she’s into you to the importance of a winning smile, Gaynor is here to help you on your way to that all-important first date!

Remember, if you have a question for one of our experts or would like to share your own story with our members, get in touch – we want to hear from you!

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Navigating the stages of a break-up can be hard and in stage one, it’s natural to feel as though things will never get better…

Toyboy dating expert, Gaynor is back with some advice on how bypass the desire to wallow and make sure your confidence doesn’t waver, in this episode of Ask Gaynor.

Helping you to realise the importance of taking some time for yourself, the power of a new pair of shoes and why (for women) ‘the sisterhood’ is so important during this period of your life.

If you’ve recently broken up with your partner or are in need of some feel-good guidance, this session is definitely worth a watch:

Remember, if you have a question for one of our experts or would like to share your own story with our members, get in touch – we want to hear from you!

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Okay all of you who have put your profile on some other social media network or on a dating site and found, after chatting to someone for a little while, that you’ve either been deleted or unmatched? If you have then you’ll either have that sinking feeling of pure rejection or you’ll just look at it and think ‘Okay, time to move on’.

Truth is regardless of how tough we are, there’s nothing worse than being rejected unless you’re the one doing the rejecting. It hits us hard and right in the heart. We start to question what it was we did or said wrong, to cause the uncoupling, and find ourselves going over the last few texts or messages analyzing – when the truth is they just moved on to someone else.

Its happened to me too. I was on a dating app swiping madly away when I got my match and straightaway we started to chat. The messages carried on over the next few days, then a couple of weeks then all of a sudden gone! I couldn’t figure out why and I couldn’t go back to my messages to check what I’d said either, so I was really bewildered as I’d believed we were getting on well – then it struck me. I had given him my number to call me and persuaded him to call as, I don’t know about you but I can’t be doing with messaging forever; I like to hear a person’s voice then meet soon after, otherwise what’s the point, but it was after that message that he deleted me. Obviously talking or meeting me was not part of the plan

Truth is there is never a really honest answer as to why someone would suddenly delete you unless:

1. they’re a scammer
2. they’re married (very likely)
3. they were also chatting to someone else who they preferred (very possible)

I think we can get too hung up on triviality, wasting our energy trying to work it out when quite simply it’s just human nature. The ones that are serious about meeting someone will meet and usually soon after chatting, if they get a good vibe, whilst the others that don’t are either serial daters or up to no good. The point here is not to waste your precious time – so many say in their profiles ‘life is too short’ and indeed it is.

I’ve known people perfectly healthy one minute then disabled overnight by a stroke and at one place I worked, someone didn’t come into work one morning and didn’t call in so as she was local they decided to pop round only to find that she’d dropped dead from an aneurism – so all time is precious time, don’t waste any of yours on past loves, the ones that were no good, the ones you just didn’t have any synergy with and especially those who deleted you.

We’ve become a throw away society where we can delete people at random or swipe them away to oblivion, we’ve become far more shallow, where looks count for much more than they ever used to and our requirements of the ‘perfect’ person grow by the day.

We have also become a more promiscuous society with porn available at the touch of a button. There’s no need to go into a shop, buy a magazine off the top shelf or sneak into a store having checked the surroundings before going in, getting our item and walking out again checking if there’s anyone around, our brown paper package tucked neatly under our arms. Now if we fancy a bit of naughtiness we only need to click on a website in the comfort of our own home and most of us at some point will do just that

The world is huge and it’s full of new and interesting people so why wouldn’t you want to put your efforts into meeting them? I’ve been single now for 8 years and in that time have had only short term relationships for various reasons, but I don’t dwell on them. I always look forward and remain optimistic that, one day, it will all come together, but I’m also perfectly okay with my own company so I’ll never force it either.

What works for one may not be right for another but the main thing is to remember that deletion and un-matching is never personal and you have to ask yourself , do you also worry about it as much when you’re busily deleting and un matching too? I doubt it so try remembering that, the next time it happens to you. There’s no way anyone could truly know you from a few messages, but one day someone will take the time and effort to do just that so waft the deletions away, smile to yourself and say ‘their loss’ and move on to more delicious things in life.

Take care and happy dating!!

Love Tanya x

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