30 Dating Dilemmas in 30 Days – Lola Vanderstrand
Your favourite mature dating, Toyboy Warehouse has 30 days to gather the most influential dating and relationship experts to help answer 30 dating dilemmas from real members. It’s a race against time to solve the world’s love issues, will we make it?
If someone came to you for dating/relationship advice, what should they expect?
I am a life and dating coach working with individuals and groups to identify barriers of personal challenges and my clients can expect me to deliver coaching and meditation solutions to improve their personal lives. The solutions are customised and personalised based on current needs and I give them a sense of motivation and confidence.
What are some of the projects you’re currently working on?
I am creating personalised audio to facilitate change. Audio that encompasses affirmations, meditations, subliminal and other technologies for self-improvement.
“What advice do you have for a guy who’s too ugly and can’t find a date?”
Well, I don’t believe in “ugly” because beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Stop thinking of yourself as ugly and focus on the great qualities I know you have! There is a lid for every pot.
“In Spring last year, my girlfriend and I went on a holiday together. On one of the nights of that holiday she spent a night not with me in the hotel, but somewhere else. She said she randomly met up with a friend who she bumped into – in a country on the other side of the world! It’s been a long time but I still have my suspicions. What should I do?”
Ask yourself what kind of relationship you want with your girlfriend, what is it you want for your future and know you deserve someone who is there for you. Communicate with her about how you feel and what your suspicions are. Do you trust her or is this coming from a place of fear?
“Got any helpful tips for a woman who has a crush on their assistant?”
Look for the signs that he is also interested and find out if he is already attached. Ask yourself if you want to work in the same work space in this time of workplace harassment. If you get attached, will the work still get done and what will happen if you break up?