30 Dating Dilemmas in 30 Days – Davondra Brown
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Tell us about yourself
Davondra Brown is a speaker, author and a Master Certified Health Education Specialist (MCHES®). She thoroughly enjoys her life’s mission of facilitating health education and promotion on relationship health, interpersonal communication and especially sexual wellness. Her professional advice has been featured in Redbook, MSN.com and Bustle, just to name a few, and she is published in the Journal of African American Studies. Davondra Brown is also the author of Alphabet Gumbo: Spice Up Your Sex Pot and has earned a Bachelor’s in Philosophy, a Master’s in Education, an advanced certificate of Innovative Technologies in Health Science Education and will soon pursue a Doctorate in Marriage and Family Therapy.
If someone came to you for dating/relationship advice, what would they expect?
Anyone I work with can expect a straight forward, information-laden experience. After listening to them about where they are and where they want to go, I share all my expert knowledge in order to provide applicable options for them to choose from.
What are some of the projects you’re currently working on?
I am working with survivors of inter-personal vioence and sexual assault to help them create their personalized sexual wellness journey. I’m also in the process of writing my second book and creating continuing education opportunities for health and healing professionals to infuse their practice with sexual wellness education topics. You can find this and more at www.DavondraBrown.com
“I’ve dated men all my life, and even married two of them! However, I’ve recently started a relationship with a woman and at my age – I’ve never been so confused! Am I striaght? Am I gay? How in the world do I figure this out?”
First off, you are human and no other label is needed unless you feel compelled to do so. This means you don’t have to define you nor does anyone else. There are plenty of labels out there if you really want one but I would suggest you concentrate on whether or not you are happy and satisfied. If they care about you and treat you well, I’m not sure there is much to figure out.
“I’m a virgin at age 29. I feel like my life is over”
Great! You’re a virgin. This is the perfect opportunity to learn yourself. Understand what it is that makes you happy and give yourself these experiences. Explore your sexual druthers and learn all you can about your own sexual needs and desires outside of a partner. Focus on mental awakenings, sexological world views and sexuality in other cultures so you can be more versed in the possibilities when potential partners do present themselves. And remember, you are always at day one of the rest of your life!
“How do I get over an ex?”
Most would say, “get under the next!” However, I would say, get under your skin. Dig deep! When you have given yourself to a relationship that doesn’t work out, you must grieve and rebuild. Honor the space that relationship took up. Figure out why you needed to go through it the way you did by identifying what you should have learned from it. Commit these educational moments to memory Then you can start the process to rebuild an even better version of yourself, with or without “a next.”